befuddling dievca’s brain

sleepover

dievca was asked to help a young adult (sophomore) and the student/Mother are trying to get a schedule together…. dievca offered 11 am or 2:30 pm on Saturday.  The kid can’t make it because she schedules ‘sleepover’s’ on Friday nights…. but, then she wants to try 6 am during the week.

Look, if you cannot get going by 11 am on a Saturday – you will not make 6 am during the week.

And a ‘sleepover’? at age 15/16?  Sometimes NYC befuddles dievca’s Midwestern brain.


You know you are loved, when…

Re: I am disturbed because my new Galaxy Active watch tells me that I don’t get enough ‘deep sleep’.  I am ok, time amount-wise and in the REM stage – but I don’t hit the healing deep sleep.  Three days of data is not enough, I will watch it for two weeks. But, it still bothers me.  I flip/flop and move a lot, but I have always done that….maybe my heart rate runs higher for the deep sleep range. Maybe this is normal with peri-menopause. Maybe I have a problem, I will watch it.

dievča,
In general, sleep experts are negative about people who get obsessed with their watch telling them that they don’t get enough deep sleep. Sleep is a very individual and complex issue. But the first thing to know is that everyone wakes up during a night’s sleep…we just don’t remember it.

Read this article:

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/feb/17/shut-eye-and-sleep-hygiene-the-truth-about-why-you-keep-waking-up-at-3am

COVID has also caused sleep problems. Read:

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2020/oct/23/the-zzz-factor-how-coronavirus-has-wreaked-havoc-with-our-sleep

In addition, you are absolutely right: peri-menopause can cause sleep problems. Read:

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/feb/16/i-look-at-the-clock-its-3am-why-women-cant-sleep

And here’s a very brief summary from the NYT about how to sleep better.

Hope some of this info is helpful.

Your Master


As we FALL FWD to Daylight Savings – a sleep analysis

With the extra hour of sleep…
Do you sleep in the nude?
Why? or why not?

A survey conducted by OnePoll on behalf of Mattress Advisor found that no matter what their choice of sleepwear, all respondents listed their top reasons behind their choices as comfortability, temperature issues (being either too hot or too cold when sleeping), and relaxation.

Twenty-six percent of pajama-wearers said they prefer to be clothed so they don’t have to wash their sheets as frequently!
This leads to the discussion that both parties seem to keep one particular unhealthy habit – reporting they only wash their sheets an average of three times a month.

Note: The general rule of thumb is to wash your sheets at least once a week. The average person produces 26 gallons of sweat in bed each year – that’s about nine fluid ounces each night. Continuing to sleep on the same sheets night after night not only poses health risks with bacteria build-up and can also impact the quality of sleep you’re getting.

Although 36% of those who sleep nude said it’s healthier to sleep naked, the fear of accidentally being seen in their birthday suit was a concern of 24% of pajama-wearers.

Three in 10 of all respondents said they felt pressure to look attractive when hitting the hay with their significant other in the early stages of their relationship.

Fifty-four percent of pajama-wearers even said they changed their sleeping attire altogether to impress their significant other.

In fact, despite wearing pajamas or not, respondents said it took an average of three months to feel their most comfortable about their clothing choice when going to sleep with their partner.

Sleeping nude does seem to improve your sex life, however, at an average of five times a week compared to four times a week for those who wear pajamas.

At the end of the day, however, both parties agreed that losing their pajamas increases intimacy between partners – at 71%.