dievca was looking out at the sunset when her brother called. Apparently 6 people saw Mom and Dad’s house today – the first day it was listed. Mom and Dad lived in a small town in a rural area surrounded by farms….so both dievca and her brother were surprised.
There are 7 more people on the schedule for tomorrow. Someone made a cash offer today and the realtor will ask for ‘Highest and Best’ offers by 5 pm tomorrow night to decide. dievca is not sure why the realtor isn’t asking for “Best and Final” offers because dievca’s brother wants the house sold as is and as soon as possible.
That means dievca will have to hustle back and get the furniture and things sorted. It would have been nice to do it in April – not the deep of February. (Shit, why not just pile one more item on a failing dievca…🙄)
Please note that the house is not the one dievca grew up in – just the one her parents built to die in.
Photo: dievca Hudson River NYC 01/2022
dievca would like to drop everything and sit by a beach.
There is a house to clear, a house to sell and work to complete. Money that was spent on a previous trips, so its not readily available. Add COVID restrictions. And a body that is showing the ravages of no time for workouts, stress and perimenopause. But, everyone has problems and everyone would like to disappear on Holiday – right?
dievca will just dream and push through~
Photo: black-and-white image by Cecil Beaton was featured in the April 1949 issue of Vogue and depicts Mrs. John C. Wilson in Jaimaca.
A day of little sleep.
A day of barely functioning.
A day of minimal production.
A day of of waste?
Or was it a day of healing?
~putting one foot in front of the other~
Photo: Lane Coder - Underwater Photography
Absolutely not complaining – dievca is grateful.
Just a little behind…ok, a lot behind.
What was added:
- Back to work the afternoon of the “Red Eye” flight, thought there would be three days grace.
- Caught up with Master – always an important Joy
- Sold three eBay items while traveling, needed to ship immediately and the printer is out of ink
- Sold four more items last night, again, no ink.
- Co-workers begging to cram in meetings before Labor Day.
- Most important, trying to get to Mom
How is your weekend shaping up?
you cannot control an outcome.
It might be healthier to step away rather than obsessing~
Stress is a feeling of emotional or physical tension. It can come from any event or thought that makes you feel frustrated, angry, or nervous. Stress is your body’s reaction to a challenge or demand. In short bursts, stress can be positive, such as when it helps you avoid danger or meet a deadline.
Emotional symptoms of stress include:
- Becoming easily agitated, frustrated, and moody
- Feeling overwhelmed, like you are losing control or need to take control
- Having difficulty relaxing and quieting your mind
- Feeling bad about yourself (low self-esteem), lonely, worthless, and depressed
- Avoiding others
Physical symptoms of stress include:
- Low energy
- Upset stomach, including diarrhea, constipation, and nausea
- Aches, pains, and tense muscles
- Chest pain and rapid heartbeat
- Frequent colds and infections
- Loss of sexual desire and/or ability
- Nervousness and shaking, ringing in the ear, cold or sweaty hands and feet
- Dry mouth and difficulty swallowing
- Clenched jaw and grinding teeth
Cognitive symptoms of stress include:
- Constant worrying
- Racing thoughts
- Forgetfulness and disorganization
- Inability to focus
- Poor judgment
- Being pessimistic or seeing only the negative side
Behavioral symptoms of stress include:
- Changes in appetite — either not eating or eating too much
- Procrastinating and avoiding responsibilities
- Increased use of alcohol, drugs, or cigarettes
- Exhibiting more nervous behaviors, such as nail-biting, fidgeting, and pacing
Blood tests can be used to estimate how much stress one is experiencing. A cortisol blood test is one of the most commonly used blood tests. Cortisol is a hormone that is released by the adrenal glands when one is under stress. Higher levels of cortisol would indicate higher levels of stress.
Explore stress management strategies, such as:
- Getting regular physical activity
- Practicing relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing, meditation, yoga, tai chi or massage
- Keeping a sense of humor
- Spending time with family and friends
- Setting aside time for hobbies, such as reading a book or listening to music
WHAT ARE THE HEALTH BENEFITS OF MASTURBATION?
Little scientific research has been conducted to examine the benefits of masturbation. However, many experts have weighed in to say it can help combat anxiety, depression, and stress. Psychologist Dr. Becky Spelman, based in London, said endorphins secreted by the body during climax boost mental health.
Dr. Spelman, a relationship expert for We-Vibe, said masturbation can have physical benefits, too. In older women, it can maintain vaginal health and prevent vaginal atrophy – which often strikes at that stage in life. Endorphins, which give the same natural high as exercise can, can reduce pain.
Writing for The Conversation, two researchers at the University of Sydney said self-pleasuring can ward off a host of illnesses. These include cystitis and diabetes, while insomnia can be reduced through hormonal and tension release, the pair said.
Aim to find active ways to manage your stress. Inactive ways to manage stress — such as watching television, surfing the internet, or playing video games — may seem relaxing, but they may increase your stress over the long term.
Be sure to get plenty of sleep and eat a healthy, balanced diet. Avoid tobacco use, excess caffeine and alcohol, and the use of illegal substances.
Have you ever lost a day….or a couple of days because you are continuously moving from one thing to another? Then you lift your head and breathe…only to realize your autopilot caused you to mix up days?
I looked back at this week’s blog posts and realized that I was off by a day.
The Thursday Lingerie post went live on Wednesday, there wasn’t a something useful post for Friday because Saturday’s strappy shoe post was running. Etc.
No emergency – its a blog.
But it threw me. What else did I screw up and was it important?
No one is screaming at me…so I may have escaped chaos.
(Note: I’m babbling in the next section)
Why did this happen?
- I added another octogenarian to the mix and had to revamp a bathroom for their safety.
- Needed to schedule to get back to my parents for one of the caregiver’s vacation time. Both parent’s had gone into the hospital for pneumonia (at seperate times). My brother needs a break.
- Summer schedule changes coming up and my co-worker opened a resturant, so the planning and execution of those plans fall on me.
- I’m considering purchasing a co-op and its a gut renovation – architect, plumber to find the gas lines, the owner passed – nothing really done since 1953…
- Master was traveling.
- Doctor’s appointments — everything seems to be going well internally – body structure and exterior that can use some work.
- Went through the storage unit to exchange winter goods for summer items. Had to do the resale craziness, again. RealReal, Buffalo Exchange, Goodwill and HousingWorks to the rescue.
- Organization for Spring events – three happening this upcoming week.
You know…nothing keeps you in tune like children. An alarm clock that keeps you on track. Here’s the rest of the story with the photo above – Life Magazine followed the Life of a 1940’s Housewife from Kankakee, IL….she’s got me beat, by far:
Funny….I just ordered this dress:
dievca, what are you doing today?
With your permission, Master, I am….
How about you?
How did it get so late so soon? Its night before its afternoon. December is here before its June. My goodness how the time has flewn. How did it get so late so soon?
You just got through Thanksgiving (if you are from North America)….are you ready for the Holidays? Have you even thought of your travel plans, purchases, strategy for dealing with family, friends and foes? May dievca wish you positive thoughts for the next month?
Take a deep breath. Work one item at a time. You can do it. BREATHE, damn it!