Interesting on so many levels

cigars

dievca was looking for a little submissive elegance and ran into this advertisement from the Cigar Institute of America.  Their message is interesting on many levels: Why just single girls? Is she a gold digger? Does she just want to be taken care of like a good cigar? Can you truly justify that starting to smoke cigars young will keep you young? She does look older than he does.  If you don’t inhale you can still enjoy the rich flavor – is that like not swallowing in fellatio?  Hmm – much to think about~


A grueling week has ended.


April Flowers

Flower Tushy

Or is that May Flowers?  

All dievca knows is that NYC is starting to blossom.  

Something lovely to see. XO


Subtle bondage in Boots

gianvito-rossi-chain-embellished-leather-knee-boots-black

Gianvito Rossi Gold chain-embellished leather boots $1600 Net-A-Porter (click on photo)

Gianvito Rossi‘s pair is made from smooth black leather and has gold anklets inspired by equestrian hardware.
Lovely and useful for unpredictable Spring weather.
Showing your BDSM leanings in a subtle manner.


Don’t forget to wear Green!

Happy Saint Patrick's Day


Subtle Restraint in a Vintage Ring

Lock yourself in 1940’s Elegance
Handmade 14K Vintage Padlock Ring
Size 6 – can be re-sized
Manhattan Vintage online
Icon Style
$595

Subtly show your BDSM leanings, 
a daily restraint reminder for the submissive.


She’s Got Legs! Newly Waxed – show the smoothness


It’s a real treat during COVID.
Time to show it off.
No Stockings.

Self-care has been limited or put on hold,
but a great way to feel a bit better is to treat yourself in a safe manner.
Haircut, waxing, facials, massage, Mani/Pedi, etc.
Masks, Outdoors, Open Windows.

dievca went for the waxing and had to show-off her gams to Master.

  • Acne Studios Shoes,
  • Anna Sui Silk Jersey Dress,
  • Marla Aaron Babylock and Curb Chain 14K/Sterling,
  • Melissa Joy Manning 14K

(click on the photos to enlarge)


Do you get wet just thinking about your Sir/Madame?


It’s the anticipation and completion.


Sexy Ice Fairy – Presentation Outfit

Ice Fairy Top Etsy $70 (click photo to purchase)

Retrofête Luna Asymmetric Metallic Mini Skirt IfChic $162 (click photo to purchase)

Saint Laurent Robin Metallic Strappy Heels Neiman Marcus $591 on sale (Click photo to purchase)

Donna Salyers Faux Fur White Mink Coat $599 (click photo to purchase)

  • Sexy
  • Dynamic
  • Easy Access
  • Fun
  • Different

“diversity, dievca, diversity”


Sprinkled Kisses

A lipstick ring around your cock is a beautiful way to start cock worship. But to change it up, should we try sugar sprinkled lips? A sweet taste with a light massage and lots of spit to dissolve the little balls which can be used to massage the larger balls.  Envision a lot of licking and kissing. Sounds like a very nice way to brighten up the day.


Stockings, Heels, a pair of Gloves…


and a Smile.

An Excellent Presentation Outfit
for your Sir or Madame.


It’s dievca’s Birthday week

she doesn’t see a birthday cake in her future, but this submissive design made her laugh!
dievca does see Maryland crabs and crabcakes arriving tomorrow –
🤞 (cross fingers) that they are good.
she used to order from Annapolis Seafood, but they stopped shipping
so she’s trying a new place in Rockville, MD
.

Click photo for link to Cameron’s Seafood online store


He’s home, He’s home, He’s home

Photo: Jon Stars, Prospect Park NY w Nicola Collie

Your Master arrived safely.
The humidity has broken.
D/s outside might be an option.
Joy!


Still waiting~


upon Master’s return.


Bombshell in lingerie: Mamie van Doren

I truly believe that one of the reasons why I look and feel so well
is because I’ve very few inhibitions.

I don’t care about age.
Life is too short to worry about what other people think. ~Mamie van Doren


It is possible that blondes also prefer gentlemen.
~ Mamie van Doren


A Moment to Take a Load Off~


Sometimes the Power Exchange Merges


with or without THORNS

Ardour red roses with thorns flogger – click photo

The phrase ‘there is no rose without thorns‘ means that in order to enjoy something that is beautiful and pleasurable, you must endure something that is difficult or painful.

Ardour leather red roses flogger – no thorns (click photo)


Restraints

If you are tied up, anything can happen. Even if nothing happens beyond kissing, the physical nature of being bound heightens everything.

With extra time on hand, dievca took a BDSM test for giggles (www.bdsmtest.org) – her results are above. she was taken aback by “Rope Bunny” being the highest percentage – especially since rope bondage (shibari) is really not one of her or Master’s interests.

she’s been pondering the high percentage ever since.

The aha! moment came yesterday after meeting and playing with Master.  Master created various cuff and strap connections during play, in response dievca switched submissive and moved all in.

Master asked her about being restrained afterward and she had a hard time verbalizing exactly why she is able to let go fully.
The gist is that dievca isn’t interested in full bondage for beauty or complete limitation of movement.
she is interested in being restrained to place full trust in Master and take away control from pieces of her body to focus fully on Master and other bodily responses. The energy from the restraints can be pushed elsewhere.

Does that make sense?


Fade Into You – where do you go?

Where do you go when the World gets a little crazy?
What habits, activities, processes happen?
dievca is still working, but when she has a chunk of open time after wiping down the refrigerator….three things may occur:

    1. The vintage 1990’s Champion Sweats appear, cosy and worn in
    2. Alexa plays Classic Cassette Era Rock, 1970’s Pop, 1980’s New Wave, 1990’s Alternative
    3. dievca’s nose gets stuck in a Sci-Fi / Fantasy novel

Master just laughs at His dievca when she hides from the World – He knows she’ll come back to Reality with Him.


But Master isn’t here and dievca has slipped into her 90’s Alternative Universe with Mazzy Star.  Yes, she has her Champion Reverseweave Sweatshirt on:

What do you do to slip away?

 

Mazzy Star – Fade Into You – 10/2/1994 – Shoreline Amphitheatre (Official)


Fade Into You
Mazzy Star
I wanna hold the hand inside you
I wanna take the breath that’s true
I look to you and I see nothing
I look to you to see the truth
You live your life, you go in shadow
You’ll come upon and you’ll go black
Some kind of night into your darkness
Close your eyes with what’s not there
Fade into you
Strange you never knew
Fade into you
I think it’s strange you never knew
The strange light comes on slowly
A stranger’s heart is out of home
You put your hands into your head
And your smiles cover your heart

Songwriters: David Roback / Hope Sandoval


History of Hair – Presentation Options


Well…options for dievca to work on.
Her hair hasn’t looked like any of these options.
Ever.
(Wait! She did have a pixie cut at one time)

How about your hair?


Stretching in the Sun~


Good Morning!


Wiggle Worm Moon

A big, bright Full Worm Moon will appear in the east on Monday, March 9th.
It might make your Sir’s worm wiggle…

Although the Super Worm Moon officially reaches 100-percent illumination at 1:48 p.m EDT and 10:42 p.m PDT, it’s much more impressive if viewed as it appears low on the horizon.

In New York, sunset is at 6:57 p.m. EDT and moonrise is at 5:56 p.m. EDT, while in Los Angeles sunset occurs at 6:56 p.m. PDT, followed by moonrise at 6:14 p.m. PDT.

If the sky isn’t clear on Monday, check again at dawn, when the moon will be setting in the west. In New York, sunrise is at 7:15 a.m. EDT and moonset 8:06 a.m. EDT, while in LA, sunrise is at 7:09 a.m. PDT and moonset 7:58 a.m. PDT.


surfacing (haiku)

Photo: Guido Argentini

The eyes are open
Aware but barely knowing
To slide thru the day

 


Blinded by Science

Cafe Press Fabric Shower Curtain $64.23
(click photo)

dievca has found herself reading Reddit Chemistry and Physics threads, lately…
Something about wishing to be a student, again?
Who knows.

This might be an inspiration for a Presentation Outfit:

Foreigner’s ‘Blinded by Science’ doesn’t have a video to inspire, but Thomas Dolby does!

  • Thick intelligent glasses
  • Lab coat
  • Pusssy bow blouse
  • Circle midi skirt
  • Black heels
  • Pencil in bun


Ummm, busy, please call back later.


Lingerie Inspiration: Ava Gardner

It’s a pity nobody believes in simple lust anymore.

~Ava Gardner

Ava Gardner, 1942.


Let’s talk about Sex, Baby – actually Arousal~

What is happening between your legs as well as between your ears during arousal?

Desire usually refers to emotionally wanting to have sex, while arousal refers to the physiological changes in your body that happen when you are sexually excited.

During arousal, your brain is welling up with powerful hormones: dopamine and oxytocin. Dopamine, which comes first, triggers feelings of motivation. I really want to get this person naked. Oxytocin, the ‘Cuddle Hormone’, kicks in later and makes you feel bonded with your partner.

As a pair, the two neurotransmitters explain why we feel instantly — if momentarily — bonded to our partner when we start to feel turned on. During arousal, certain geography of the brain lights up like fireworks. Half a dozen parts of the brain become activated, including the amygdala (associated with emotions), the hippocampus (associated with memory management), and the anterior insula (helps process physical feelings).

Men and women’s brains don’t always respond the same way to arousing stimuli. In a study published in 2015, men and women watched a series of erotic videos while researchers examined their brains using an fMRI. Both men and women reported feelings of arousal while watching the videos, but researchers noticed that men showed more brain activity in the amygdala while women showed hardly any.

More so than men, women tend to be aroused by stimuli that they can “imagine themselves into” — like an erotic story, or an imagined fantasy. Another study that tracked eye movement as people watched pornography, found that both men and women’s eyes were locked on the woman in the film — regardless of their sexual orientation. The theory? Women need to imagine their way “into” the scene, while men are satisfied by focusing on the visual imagery alone.

Researchers also noticed that women’s stimulation of the vagina, clitoris, and nipples all correspond to the same precise area of the sensory cortex — meaning that all of those areas register as erogenous. Yes, confirming the obvious, but arousal has been difficult to measure as there is often a disconnect between what is happening in your genitals, your brain, and your consciousness.

John Bancroft, Ph.D., senior researcher and former director of the Kinsey Institute, has studied how arousal develops, and his research pinpoints something important:

We need to be aware of our own arousal before we can really feel aroused.

Photo: Shutterstock B-D-S Piotr Marcinski

“In the male, sexual arousal is typically associated with some degree of penile erection. The man will become aware of this, and focus his attention on the idea of his penis being stimulated,” explains Dr. Bancroft. But, in women, the equivalent — the stiffening of the clitoris — isn’t nearly as noticeable, and “typically the woman is less aware of her genital response unless her genitals are touched.”

Cognitive components of arousal are especially important for women. Just like sensual touching can jumpstart arousal, so too can sensual thought. Reading erotica, watching pornography, fantasizing about an erotic scenario, or even just thinking about sex all trigger a response in the brain — which, in turn, contributes to feelings of arousal. The biggest sex organ in the body is the brain, talking with a lover in a loving, sexy way can cause a man to become erect, or a woman to become wet.

The mechanics of sexual arousal are well-known, but are there things that can take our arousal to the next level? There are all kinds of supposed ‘sexual aids’ in the form of herbs, supplements, and exercise methods that claim to improve libido. e.g. eating oysters, taking ginseng, using THC lube. No conclusive evidence has been found that these items do not work, but there is no good evidence that they do work either.

What is recommended and proven is communication. The sharing of one’s desires is a great arousal jump-starter. Working to shed inhibitions and opening yourself emotionally can help you get into the right headspace to feel turned on. Don’t think of ‘foreplay’  as something completed to get to a conclusive event (orgasm). Think ‘sex play’ — a menu of different activities to create pleasure between partners, sometimes with a formal conclusion, sometimes without.


Working the ASSets!

Work with what God gave you~


So, has there been any D/s activity?

Yes.
In modified modes.

It’s not been all comfort food…
Master has been really cognizant about His dievca’s mental and physical state.
Back issues? Certain positions.
Torn Calf? Gentle maneuvering.
Mental meltdown? Coddling before shifting..
Need for oblivion? Heavy D/s subspace.

In return, dievca has been serving Her Master to the best of her abilities.
It’s amazing how they flip to D/s without much coaxing.
One cannot ask anything more than that in D/s relationship. Right?


Silence and Candles

Eight Candles surround me
Offering a soft glow
Linking Night to the Morn

Silence loud in absence
Absolutely peaceful
The healing has begun

Looking back carefully
Confident glance forward
New opportunities