Something of a smile

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“He’s very good looking and very sexy and all of those things, but all of that goes out the window and what is finally left is, if you can make somebody laugh … And he sure does keep me laughing” -Joanne Woodward

Paul Newman attributed their relationship success to “some combination of lust and respect and patience.
And determination.”
Paul Newman claimed that “Joanne gave birth to a sexual creature”.  dievca attributes a similar opening up experience to her Master.

the completed seaglass project

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Interesting, right?  Its the “French Blue” Jelly Color with the Matte top coat.  Apparently, the color has been renamed as “Morningtide”.  Two ladies stopped on the sidewalk to comment on dievca’s nails as she took the photo.  They liked the combination…


Fleet Week NYC 2023

Fleet Week 2023

dievca finished her swim this morning and caught sight of the Fleet Week ships entering into NYC on the Hudson River.  Note the haze from the wildfires out west.  If you would like to watch a timelapse of the Fighter Planes, Helicopters, and Ships – https://www.fox5ny.com/video/1225154


A lowkey start to Saturday

Have a fabulous weekend and send dievca good vibes as she works. XO


Sea glass for Summer

seaglassnails-IMARNINAILS Instagram dievca is not a “nail goddess”, she’s not going to be on the cover of a magazine showing off her manicure (each of her nails is a different shape)
dievca is interested in this nail trend for Summer – “Sea Glass”

“Sea glass” is physically and chemically weathered glass found on beaches along bodies of salt water. These weathering processes produce natural frosted glass.

Is there a difference between sea glass and beach glass?

sea-glass-primer-1“Genuine sea glass” can be collected as a hobby and is used for decoration, most commonly in jewelry. “Beach glass” comes from fresh water and is often less frosted in appearance than sea glass. Sea glass takes 20 to 40 years, and sometimes as much as 100 to 200 years, to acquire its characteristic texture and shape.

Sea glass nails are exactly what they sound like: a semi-sheer, cool-toned manicure with a matte finish like a piece of glass that has been swept around in the ocean for months, if not years.

Jelly polishes, which give nails a sheer, translucent wash of color reminiscent of Jell-O, are ideal for creating the see-through charm of sea glass. Jelly colors are what makes sea glass nails unique from other pastel manicures. The finish is sheer so one can still see through it after two coats. dievca plans to use Cirque Colors Jelly in Aqua, Jade and French Blue, finishing with  Orly Matte Topcoat to complete the sea glass look (Note: its recommended that you use a fast dry top coat before the matte coat for longer wear).

dievca has everything ordered from online and will let you know how the “sea glass nails” step out goes!

Photo: sea glass nails from IMARNINAILS @instagram
A "Thank You" to the website BYRDIE for guiding dievca to a cool trend!

“Laughter is the shortest distance between two people.” —Victor Borge

Sexy humor

If I can’t joke around with a guy and hold at least a decent conversation, there is no way sex will ever be on the table.” —Julia

Both genders prefer a partner with a sense of humor, believing that it is important not only in flirting and dating, but also within an enduring relationship. However, whereas men tend to look for a partner who appreciates their sense of humor, women tend to look for a man who makes them laugh. These tendencies are complementary. Indeed, research suggests that when two strangers meet and the man succeeds in making the woman laugh, the chances of her becoming interested in forming a relationship increase (Hall, 2015; Cassata, 2016).

Humor crops up in various forms between Master and His dievca – makes for diversity and is a Joy.


A little help from science

Screenshot_20230511_203151_Chromedievca ran track through high school (sprinter, high jump) and the school trainer was a very kind man who assisted injured athletes from various sports. He had a pat answer for the tricky question female athletes would ask about dieting in the 1980’s —>

This comment came back into dievca’s mind as she cruised through perimenopause  and into menopause, she felt like she was eating everything she saw – like a seagull. 

Now, dievca is ending her second week of Estradiol (HRT) and her appetite has dropped and is much more under control.  Yes, her breasts may get larger, hopefully her weight may shift out of her belly – but its the feeling that her joints are moving more freely (#1) and her overwhelming desire for food has diminished (#2) that is making her feel very happy relieved.

Note: the addition of progesterone will happen in 2 weeks. (helps protect from breast cancer and helps with sleep)

Is this a placebo effect?  Who knows, who cares – its a positive change in dievca’s life. 

Illustration by “Beast Flaps” a UK artist who has books available on the Amazon UK site.


Well, someone likes the weather we’ve been having!

The azaleas are gorgeous this Spring.  An explosion of Joy!

Photo: dievca azaleas Hudson River 05/2023

Good Morning, Sexy!

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Have a good week!


toccata and fugue in d minor with Vanessa Mae

Starting out the morning with Grand Drama and a “giddy up- get it together” prod.

Happy Saturday!


One Perfect Rose

Roses embroidered dressA single flow’r he sent me, since we met.
All tenderly his messenger he chose;
Deep-hearted, pure, with scented dew still wet—
One perfect rose.

I knew the language of the floweret;
“My fragile leaves, ” it said, “his heart enclose.”
Love long has taken for his amulet
One perfect rose.

Why is it no one ever sent me yet
One perfect limousine, do you suppose?
Ah no, it’s always just my luck to get
One perfect rose.

— Dorothy Parker


Wishing you the best for the Weekend. d~

Friday Pin Up


Digging deep – a dress for a funeral

dievca  and her brothers did not have a Funeral Mass said for Mom and Dad.  dievca has the ashes and she plans to take them to a Mass at Mom’s favorite outdoor chapel in a tote bag and then to a Family Reunion with the cousins.  Mom and Dad wouldn’t have wanted to miss it! Afterward, dievca is planning to scatter them – into Lake Michigan, or a river in Pittsburgh, or store them in a mausoleum near her Aunts, or a Rose Garden – dievca’s brothers have left it for her to decide and she is dithering.

Anyways, dievca has not needed a somber dress for a funeral recently.  She wore color for her last Aunt. This occasion calls for something more serious and dievca is digging deep into the closet.  Here are her options (click on the photos for the brands):

So, dievca has many options – right?!?!?  Well, no, she expects many of the items to be too snug with her middle.  But, this is a good exercise to pare down the items in her closet.  Time to go and try them ALL on…..wish her luck!


Casual Dress: dining in Chelsea

cakeSo, the Birthday dinner ended up at a local Chinese Food restaurant in Chelsea (Grand Sichuan).  A bit of a dump, but the company was good and the birthday cake from Le Bergamote was spectacular!

It was raining lightly, so dievca dressed to bike (click on photos to see the brands):

The Party continued at a wine bar up by Times Square – but dievca tapped out.  she had worked a full day and had PT before the dinner.  

dievca thought her Sunday would be free and clear, but it turns out that she has been scheduled to meet friends for dinner. Thank Goodness they texted to ask what the dress code is for Cookshop otherwise she would have forgotten…

The dress code is stated as Casual Dress: With “casual dress”, anything goes. Let your comfort and the weather be your guide. Still, it’s important to use your best judgment. No matter how casual the dress, everything you wear should fit you well at your current weight, and be in good clean condition.

So, dievca is diving back in to her closet for something to wear (64F = 18C, no rain):


87F (30.6C) in April … whew!

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There wasn’t much of a Winter in New York City, now Spring seems to be hijacked by Summer temperatures. It’s a bit crazy – Master broke out the fan! 
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They say that the temperature will drop to a high of 67 F (19C) today, so dievca’s plans to wear a light cotton dress to a birthday dinner will have to be revamped…
Here’s what she was planning to wear:

Now she’s moving on to something else:


Speaking of Spring with Cynthia Rowley

dievca has an upcoming Fundraising Event on a boat. She’s looking into wearing this Cynthia Rowley dress with a jeans jacket and her Dries van Noten chunky green platform sandals Her hair is cut in a bob and will blow everywhere, but the  red lipstick and green drop earring will keep it together. 
Cynthia Rowley Isla Dress Red Preint $525
The Ultimate Pretty Meets Sporty! Sleek and sporty lycra with silk twill skirt.

  • Scoop neckline
  • Scoop back
  • Side pockets
  • Fabric content:
    • Top: 67% nylon, 33% spandex
    • Bottom: 100% silk
  • Care instructions: dry clean recommended

Fit: model is 5’8″ and wears a size S.

Size Small measurements:

  • Length from shoulder: 52″

MSRP $545


So what is it with spanking? Why is it a thing?

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So what is it with spanking? Why is it a thing?

Physically, the derriere area is full of sensitive nerves and since the location is close to the genital area it is pretty easy to stimulate that realm by touching or hitting.

When a person gets spanked, although it may hurt, it activates the nerve endings which also trigger sexual stimulation.

Additionally, the action can help a Dominant or submissive center their focus on each other.


Just poured and ready to go!

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Good Morning – have a good week.


Happy Easter!

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Hop, Hop, Hop!


Killed it!

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dievca had a project and it blew up larger than expected!
She hit it out of the ballpark.
That doesn’t always happen.
Shazam!
Enjoying a glass of wine to celebrate.
dievca hopes you have had something good happen, too. XO

Holmegaard 'Canada' cocktail glasses by Per Lutken 3


Spring Vintage

dieva caught up with Master and offered a Presentation outfit of blue.  A vintage satin polka dot nightgown and robe set from I. Magnin.  (The same set is offered at Poshmark if you are interested.) Simple elegance for Spring.

dievca remembers going to the Chicago I. Magnin stores with her Mother – very glamourous.

I. Magnin & Company was a San Francisco, California-based high fashion and specialty goods luxury department store. Over the course of its existence, it expanded across the West into Southern California and the adjoining states of Arizona, Oregon, and Washington. In the 1970s, under Federated Department Stores ownership, the chain entered the Chicago, Illinois, and Washington, DC, metropolitan areas. Mary Ann Magnin founded the company in 1876 and named the chain after her husband Isaac. The chain was liquidated in 1994.


This may not be true for everyone, but

dievca believes in this decription:

New Yorkers may seem like a brash

uncaring bunch to the uninitiated. But

when you get to know the people and the

city, you’ll probably realize that they are

“kind, but not nice,” as opposed to how

many describe people on the West Coast

as “nice, but not kind.”

kindnessDefinitions:

kind

adjective

1
aof a sympathetic or helpful nature was helped by a kind neighbor

They were very kind to us.
bof a forbearing nature GENTLE
kind treatment of animals

carising from or characterized by sympathy or forbearance
a kind act

a kind smile

nice

adjective

nicernicest
1POLITE
a very nice person

That’s nice of you to say.
2PLEASINGAGREEABLE
nice time

a nice person

Kindness is often expressed through actions that you take for other people, while niceness typically involves more superficial words or simple gestures. A nice person may tell a neighbor that they are sorry that they are sick — while a kind person may drop off some soup or offer to pick up groceries for them.

The differences?

  • Nice is self-focused. Kindness is not.
  • Nice is easy. Kindness, at times, is not.
  • Nice is superficial. Kindness is not.
  • Nice doesn’t change much. Kindness does.
  • Nice is a pat on the back. Kindness is a look in the eyes.
  • Nice does not require courage. Kindness does.
  • Nice is forgotten. Kindness is not.

When I was young I used to admire intelligent people; as I grow older, I admire kind people.

– Abraham Joshua Herschel –

dievca doesn’t do very well with “California No” or “Minnesota Nice”, she equates it with being untrustworthy. Master just laughs at her, they have been discussing how being kind seems to become more valued as you age.  Then dievca’s Midwestern background kicks in — “Why can’t people be blunt, honest, nice and kind? XO


Quirky for a Friday

Master’s description of dievca’s style is “Whimsical Chic”.  In other words – sometimes weird.

dievca ran into this belt on SSENSE as an exclusive and it is really making her smile:rose-murdoch-ssense-exclusive-multicolor-pj-harvey-rules-belt 2rose-murdoch-ssense-exclusive-multicolor-pj-harvey-rules-belt

SSENSE Exclusive Multicolor PJ Harvey Rules Belt

Hand-woven elasticized belt.
· Reclaimed metal toy cars in multicolor at length
· Hook-eye fastening

Available exclusively at SSENSE.
Supplier color: Car toys

Metal, plastic, textile.

Made in United Kingdom.

$120


Has anyone seen my lace boxers?

Fleur du Mal Boxers

For Men and Women via Fleur du Mal


Elaborate Fantasies

what-a-way-to-say-good-morning-goodmorning-hello-sexyDon’t get all excited – dievca’s excellent fantasies have not returned…yet.  she was just pondering where they went.

Were they lost with COVID?
Or taking care of her Parents?
Did perimenopause take a toll?
The knee surgery?

All of the above?
Honestly, dievca thinks that the dressing in various items of lingerie and feeling good her body helped create the fantasies and since the perimenopause/knee – she’s been more focused on getting her body to move effectively.

That doesn’t mean that the Play with Master has diminished – the Fantasies were a separate venue.  dievca thinks they came with having some spare time.  Maybe they will come back in the future.


Friday Night Fish : Andalusia vs. US Midwest

Whelp – more fresh color on the Spanish version of “Fish for Lent”. Mayo-based coleslaw can’t compete with fresh tomatoes. dievca will argue that her Lake Perch was lightly breaded and cooked to perfection. And the experience is not something you can find in NYC. Even through she grew up in the Midwest, dievca felt like an Anthropologist watching the behaviors of a new species. 

dievca’s Dutch friend is enjoying the sun and heat of Spain.

Photos: Fish Fry in Antequera, Spain and Fish Fry in Wisconsin, USA 03/2023


Lipstick Red Vintage Lingerie

A gorgeous lipstick red slinky nightgown features a crisscross fitted bodice trimmed in sheer floral edging with a slightly flared skirt, and is made by the quality lingerie manufacturer, Lorraine.

Label sized 36

Measurements:

37″ at bust

under-bust 30″

29″ waist

15″ below underarm seam: 48″ (hip)

16″ long from shoulder to waist

44.5″ long from shoulder to hem

64″ sweep of hem

Excellent condition, available HERE


Mavette: Nola d’Orsay

Mavette_Nola_Blue_037_400x $480

With elegant color-blocking and silver trim details, our Nola d’Orsay heel is a head-turner. Features a d’Orsay style design and adjustable foot and ankle strap. The Nola shoe has it all including a roomy round toe box and integrated comfort technology. Pairs perfectly with jeans, white pants, or a flowy skirt, you’ll love the killer color-blocking and stable chunky heel.
  • Integrated All Day Comfort Technology
  • Adjustable ankle strap
  • Athletic grade cushion at the toe box
  • Suede upper
  • Leather lining 
  • Leather sole with anti-slip
  • 3-inch (85mm) heel 
  • Hidden platform at the toe box
  • Handmade in Italy
  • $480

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Mussels with Master and Sylvia Plath

Mussels

Master and dievca enjoyed a an evening of mussels at the B. Cafe on the UES

Mondays are a quiet dining night in NYC, so the experience was low-key and relaxed.  The mussels were fresh and well-cooked. 

Years ago, a bartender explained to dievca how you can have excellent mussels all year on the East Coast.  The mussel are sourced from the Maine on down the Atlantic Coast depending upon the season.  Hence, good mussels all year.  At the time, dievca was confused because the mussel season in Europe was shorter (as far as she knew).

Let’s honor the joy brought by a messy job with Sylvia Plath:

Mussel Hunter At Rock Harbor

I came before the water —-
Colorists came to get the
Good of the Cape light that scours
Sand grit to sided crystal
And buffs and sleeks the blunt hulls
Of the three fishing smacks beached
On the bank of the river’s

Backtracking tail. I’d come for
Free fish-bait: the blue mussels
Clumped like bulbs at the grassroot
Margin of the tidal pools.
Dawn tide stood dead low. I smelt
Mud stench, shell guts, gulls’ leavings;
Heard a queer crusty scrabble

Cease, and I neared the silenced
Edge of a cratered pool-bed.
The mussels hung dull blue and
Conspicuous, yet it seemed
A sly world’s hinges had swung
Shut against me. All held still.
Though I counted scant seconds,

Enough ages lapsed to win
Confidence of safe-conduct
In the wary other world
Eyeing me. Grass put forth claws,
Small mud knobs, nudged from under,
Displaced their domes as tiny
Knights might doff their casques. The crabs

Inched from their pygmy burrows
And from the trench-dug mud, all Camouflaged in mottled mail
Of browns and greens. Each wore one
Claw swollen to a shield large
As itself—no fiddler’s arm
Grown Gargantuan by trade,

But grown grimly, and grimly
Borne, for a use beyond my
Guessing of it. Sibilant
Mass-motived hordes, they sidled
Out in a converging stream
Toward the pool-mouth, perhaps to
Meet the thin and sluggish thread

Of sea retracing its tide-
Way up the river-basin.
Or to avoid me. They moved
Obliquely with a dry-wet
Sound, with a glittery wisp
And trickle. Could they feel mud
Pleasurable under claws

As I could between bare toes?
That question ended it—I
Stood shut out, for once, for all,
Puzzling the passage of their
Absolutely alien
Order as I might puzzle
At the clear tail of Halley’s

Comet coolly giving my
Orbit the go-by, made known
By a family name it
Knew nothing of. So the crabs
Went about their business, which
Wasn’t fiddling, and I filled
A big handkerchief with blue

Mussels. From what the crabs saw,
If they could see, I was one
Two-legged mussel-picker.
High on the airy thatching
Of the dense grasses I found
The husk of a fiddler-crab,
Intact, strangely strayed above

His world of mud—green color
And innards bleached out blown off
Somewhere by much sun and wind;
There was no telling if he’d
Died recluse of suicide
Or headstrong Columbus crab.
The crab-face, etched and set there,

Grimaced as skulls grimace: it
Had an Oriental look,
A samurai death mask done
On a tiger tooth, less for
Art’s sake than God’s. Far from sea —-
Where red-freckled crab-backs, claws
And whole crabs, dead, their soggy

Bellies pallid and upturned,
Perform their shambling waltzes
On the waves’ dissolving turn
And return, losing themselves
Bit by bit to their friendly
Element—this relic saved
Face, to face the bald-faced sun.


Finished! How is your Monday?

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Project deadline: COMPLETE and ON TIME!