A moment with New Jersey

dievca runs to New Jersey every couple of months to hit Wal-Mart for staples (toilet paper, paper towels, etc.) Her early morning trip is taking place after a long weekend of work – she survived.

To celebrate her time heading to NJ (and dealing with crazy drivers) plus surviving work, dievca invites you to join her with Jersey Girl, Gloria Gayner (Newark, NJ) in singing a fabulous disco-era anthem.

Good Morning! XO


Still working on a Saturday

Sometimes you need MJ and Soul Train to get you going in the morning!


People can be stupid.

Nobody calls when its quiet. Everyone calls when you are in the middle of Life. It doesn’t take 11 e-mails to get one item completed.  Why can’t newcasters tie their own shoes without a teleprompter?  Add that you are missing sleep and trying to function in a Public World. dievca is a crab who is trying to be very nice at this moment – when she really just wants to snap everyone’s head off with her claws…

Sorry about the whigning – dievca really needs sleep.


Cheap Date~(closure of Elderly Parents)

Airport lounge champagnedievca lost those 8 hours of work on Friday with travel debacles, she made them up by starting at 4:00 am and plowing through the house. Her brother, Sister-in-Law, Nephew and Niece-in-Law + the three older kids (10, 9, 7) were amazing. 3 bedrooms 2.5 baths, full basement, full attic, 3 stall garage – sorted, packed, Goodwilled, Seniors Elderly Center, Animal Shelter and the house staged with furniture wanted by the buyer and left with some accessories/decent linens.

Dinners were nice affairs – Pizza on late arrival with Red wine. Caregivers and everyone shared a lovely meal with Seafood/Italian to honor Mom and Dad amidst the house chaos + the chocolates Mom loved, Wild Rice Chicken and Mushroom Soup + fresh baked bread the next evening at dievca’s Nephew/Nieces’ house. After the dinners, back to work for dievca for an hour or so.  Then, early to bed, early to rise.

At the Airport, dievca was handed a flute of champagne and started buzzing immediate due to exhaustion and lack of food.  she went for a second glass and overheard the bartender say that the “premium” champagne was being served because the inexpensive one ran out. So, when her elbow knocked over 1/3 of the flute of champage, dievca ponder getting a third flute – but getting bombed before a flight was not on the agenda.

Caregivers are cleaning the house today, dievca’s brother will do a walk-thru with realtor on Weds – closing on Friday if all goes well.

dievca’s Brother was on a mission to get the house sold. she would not recommend this timeline to anyone, but it is possible with many hands working together. XO

Side note: Mom and Dad’s ashes were in the Laundry Room, side by side.  Mom obviously weighed a lot less than Dad did at the end – we think it was the osteoperosis. The 1st night dievca needed water at 3 am and she ran into the laundry room to grab a bottle – the light over Mom and Dad was flickering.  Then she found a $100 bill in a card that her Dad had written, “Happy Birthday” with no name on it. Used the money to pay for the babysitter watching the 3 younger kids (5, 3, 1.5) – Dad would have been happy.


Dress the Part

Dress the  Partdievca has a Navy Blue Silk Dress that makes her feel amazing. Its’s not the most expensive dress nor the most fashionable, but she likes to wear it whenever she needs to clean up and present to humans. she can dress the outfit up or down with shoes/boots and accessories – any way it goes on it – she feels great.

dievca stands taller.

A lot of people argue that what you wear isn’t important, or that it is unfair to suggest that people should buy clothes to boost their self-esteem. If we are being realistic about the working world or IRL, we have to point out the truth: How you present yourself is important. You don’t need to have a closet full of expensive clothes to get ahead, but you will feel a lot better if you have one or two outfits you absolutely love that you can wear whenever you need a pick-me-up.

dievca doesn’t wear the silk dress because it will impress other people — she wears it because it makes her feel ready to take on the world!

(roll over a photo to see the item description)


Better for survivors or better for the person dying?

deivca is pondering a question this morning… please let her explain the scenario, 1st:

Inline & Roller Skating - Amazon_comA work friend died yesterday. she was a few years older than dievca. The friend worked at a different location, so dievca didn’t see her all the time.  dievca did see the friend in the summer and she looked a bit tired and thin, but her friend was thin to begin with. The friend was moving well and rollerblading consistently to work.

In September the friend asked dievca for a favor and it was to be turned back over in November. Not anymore.

No one knew the friend was sick, she just died.

It was cancer.

The workplace is reeling because this person was kind, happy, and caring. Lovely to everyone.

No one knows what happened.  Was it diagnosed Stage 4? did she decide to pass on chemo? was it so aggressive there was no time? had she been battling it for a while and told no one but her family?

Back to dievca’s pondering…

Is it better to let people know about your illness or say nothing?

A quick death might be better for the terminally ill person, but doesn’t allow people to say Good-Bye.
(You don’t have to explain your condition, your treatment plans, deal with everyone feeling sorry for you, etc.)

A longer process allows people to connect with the terminally ill person but extends their trauma.
(People will keep asking what is going on, what the treatment plan is, ask how you are feeling, maybe offer pity, etc.)

OK, multiple questions. Tough questions.

No matter what the answers, it does bring to mind the phrase, “My Body – My Choice.”


Disconnection

2-Dreamlike-underwater-photography

A day of little sleep.
A day of barely functioning.
A day of minimal production.
A day of of waste?
Or was it a day of healing?

~putting one foot in front of the other~

Photo: Lane Coder - Underwater Photography

Trying to catch up

Vintage photo woman runningAbsolutely not complaining – dievca is grateful.
Just a little behind…ok, a lot behind.
What was added:

  • Back to work the afternoon of the “Red Eye” flight, thought there would be three days grace.
  • Caught up with Master – always an important Joy
  • Sold three eBay items while traveling, needed to ship immediately and the printer is out of ink
  • Sold four more items last night, again, no ink.
  • Co-workers begging to cram in meetings before Labor Day.
  • Most important, trying to get to Mom

How is your weekend shaping up?

 


Working on a new position…

1966_Vargas girl red nylons yoga

Well, my boss said that if I didn’t like working under him, I should look for another position.”

Hmm~ not exactly appropriate for many reasons from a boss, but appropriate if it was your Sir/Madame.


A grueling week has ended.


Something to beat the Slush on a Saturday!

dievca is off to work.
Here’s a little Sunshine for your day.
XO


For that Secret Santa gift….

So, your workgroup decided to do a gift exchange and the limit is $20 – dievca found the gift:

BeautyBlender Zodiac Make-up Sponge $20

dievca really hopes someone gets her one because the reviews on the BeautyBlender Sponge are phenomenal and with the zodiac sign it will make the gift “hers”. XO

Zodiac Collection

OK, so your giftee is male.  He might like the make-up sponge, but in case he flows away from make-up, perhaps a Swiss Army Walker kit will do it:

Swiss Army Walker

 


The look for less?

A vs. B

A:  Rag & Bone:
100% Cashmere Mock Neck Top $495
100% Cashmere Sweatpants $425
Total Cost = $920.00

B:  Winnifred Grace:
82% Cotton 18% Polyester Etoile Sweatshirt $62
82% Cotton 18% Polyester Etoile Sweatpants $58
Total Cost = $120.00

It would be lovely to have either set.

But the green color, stars, and cost have bumped dievca into the ‘Look for Less’ choice.

Which option would you choose?


“If you can, do. If you can’t, improvise.”

A Gentleman stopped dievca in the back hallway of her building, she was walking her bike to hang it up in the bike room.

“Do you work in fashion?”
“No”
“You always have the greatest clothes and accessories!”
(WHAT?!?!?)
“Uhh, Thank you. Maybe I’m just trying to hide my short self in fine feathers.”
(Heh,heh)
“No – when I see you, you look great and always have fun things.”
(OK-Wow, Thanks.)

Let’s analyze what dievca had on (click photos for larger image):

 

Fun, right? Hmm~
dievca is not tall and elegant.
she’s not a model and won’t be in a street style photoshoot anytime soon.
But, she does do a lot of improvising!
XO

Note: The Zadig & Voltaire Sweatshirt is available and on sale, the Urban Outfitters socks are available, and the RE/done mask is available. Shoes, Backpack, Sunglasses, Tee, Pants, and J Crew Anorak might be on eBay.


Masked and ready

dievca’s schedule has shifted and at this moment she is back to work on Saturdays – masked and ready.
Here’s hoping that others are masked and regaining employment, too.
Thinking of everyone with positive wishes.
d.

Comic: Gary Varvel 2020

Lookin’ for inspiration & Takin’ Care of Business

Bachman-Turner Overdrive
Reminding dievca of her older brother
And getting some giddy-up to get moving to work on a Saturday.
Enjoy your day off…😘


After work — for your Sir/Madam


Keep it simple and clean.
Sexy will shine through.


When you work on Saturdays

Anouki Areshidze wearing knit saying “Don’t kill my vibe”, during Paris Fashion Week S/S 2019 on Sep 09/26/18 (Photo by Christian Vierig/Getty Images – cropped)

Coffee
20 minute back resetting flow
Shower
Yogurt with berries
Bundle up like an Eskimo
Bike into work
Ready to go

DO NOT KILL MY VIBE…
I am pounding through the day.


she works Hard for the $


It was a long, arduous Saturday.
Please refer back to Saturday’s post
for where dievca’s mind has stopped.
(Does anyone have wine and all-ready-made chocolate cake for dievca?)


CONSENSUS CULTURE

A Danish retail chain called “Normal” offers this Ad on a Swedish storefront. Interesting choice for the target audience.

Conformity, most of the time

dievca runs into dichotomies within the Swedish Culture by pushing individuals to ‘shine’ (or standout) when culturally that act is a social kiss of death. Insisting upon change within a well-developed system?
Slow going….but that’s why they hired her.

The US has long been and remains an invented culture, full of disparate and changing parts. Those parts vary by race, ethnicity, class, and region, to name a few demarcations. Identities in the US are lightly held; there is always the possibility of moving to a different geographical and cultural location and reinventing yourself. Lots of Americans are at any time “on the move” in that way.

Sweden, like many European nations, has an old and deeply-rooted culture that manifests itself in dominant group norms. Reinvention is less possible and, it seems, less desirable to Swedes.

Those norms may have grown from the centralist history of their institutions. Sweden has long had one strong national government, a single state church, one public system of higher education, one set of national employment laws.

You must fit in.
Individuality is not usually prized. This may be one of the strangest traits of Swedes because their contribution to popular culture is so disproportionately huge relative to their small population.

Being a pop music superpower (Sweden is the third-largest producer of pop music after the US and UK) shouldn’t sit easily with a nation that frowns on those who drive flashy cars or exhibit any flamboyance. What about IKEA, H&M, COS, & Other Stories. Pop music, Retail and the arts, in general, are about expressing your creativity. How does this fit in with the country of ‘lagom’ (the Swedish word for ‘just enough’)?

Swedes (like many Americans) think that the way they do things is the best – their university degrees are better, their work practices are better, etc.

Annoyingly, unlike Americans, Swedes’ superiority complex is mostly warranted. After all, the Swedes are ahead of the curve on many issues.

But that doesn’t mean that newcomers to the country cannot offer a fresh perspective. Unfortunately, many Swedes have no desire to consider an outsider’s approach or listen to new solutions to old problems.

The attitude from the local Swedes is very much, “Oh, we’ve always done it this way, and we’re OK – why would we change?”

They just waddle along complacently, happy with their lot, not at all bothered that there is a whole world out there that might just, know how to do some things a little better than they do.

Modified and added to a piece from Paul Connolly – “The Local” August 17, 2015

Flying Away

After a lovely moment with Master, dievca is looking for motivational music for the trip. More than half this trip is work – she needs a giddy-up push.  But, there is a little jaunt to Portugal on the itinerary. That’s dievca’s moment to “Fly Away”.

Also, dievca needs to apologize – she’s really been negligent about connecting with comments, people and blogs. Yes, busy is a baloney excuse, she’s really hoping to take a little time each morning to reconnect on the blog. she misses all of you. XO


Coming Up for Air

Underwater Photography by Joseph Seif.

the final push
off the bottom

releases energy
and leaves a trail

the finish
blurs into the beginning

with a gasp
of air

dievca’s final push through an insane week concludes at 4 pm EDT


Back at it on a Monday!


Rejuvenated and ready to try, again.
How ’bout you?
Have a good week!


Master is helping his daughter move…

He’s Grumpy!
After the move Master is taking on IKEA bookshelf build detail:

dievca is just so entertained with the thought.
IKEA was a “Defining Moment” in Master and dievca’s Relationship.
(When dievca and Master survived an IKEA piece)


Running a bit late this morning~

dievca had a working dinner last evening in her apartment.  The number of attendees kept growing and good information was shared.

Monroe at the premiere party for the 1953 film, How to Marry a Millionaire. Robert Mitchum and Marilyn Monroe would start filming River of No Return

And then the bubbly came out:

George Best enjoying a drink.

Let’s just say this morning was sssslllloooowwww…

 

Morning after the Night before~


Being Passionate.

dievca went to a Bat mitzvah, last evening. It was the most formal presentation of a Young Adult she has experienced in the 16 years in the City. What she means is that the Rabbi was passionate, the celebrant was well tutored and it was a lovely service.

dievca is not Jewish and she doesn’t understand Hebrew – but, again, the Rabbi was so passionate and explained the service clearly, dievca paid attention and was engaged.

What it reinforced is that dievca ends up enjoying going on someone’s ride when they are passionate about their Life, Talents, Calling or Crafts.

What are you Passionate about?

Take dievca on your ride!


Coffee on the move today~

Good Morning!


Hosting 30+, gotta go~

So that Birthday thing?
dievca’s hosting 30+ on the rooftop to celebrate.  she has to work 6 hours, too.

Love to you on a Saturday – she’s gotta go!

Work outfit:

Party Outfit:


What to do in the European heat?

Temperatures in Europe are spiking.

“Warm Out?” … “Shut Up!”

After a long week of work, what do you do?
You head to friends and sit in the brown garden.


Take a beer and have “build your own” tacos.
Life is good with friends.
(yes, it was a light beer to start….the Czech beer was better)

PS. dievca’s hair looks like that popcorn~


Sommar Heat – Scandinavia

 

Photos: dievca 07/2018 Scandinavia