The giraffes of the NJ savanna

Photo: dievca NJ 12/2018


Who are you?

Ask yourself,
as you are cruising the Holiday Party chaos…

Common thought holds that there are two types of social personalities. Extroverts are the norm, and they tend to draw energy from their physical and social environment and interactions in highly social situations. Introverts have got more attention, as characterized by Susan Cain in her 2012 work Quiet: the Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking. Not surprisingly, introverts tend to draw their power from solitude and silence.

But there might be a third category of social personality: the ambivert. You may be an ambivert and not know it, but with the list of signs below, you might diagnose yourself and plan accordingly.

Extraversion (E)

I like getting my energy from active involvement in events and having a lot of different activities. I’m excited when I’m around people and I like to energize other people. I like moving into action and making things happen. I generally feel at home in the world. I often understand a problem better when I can talk out loud about it and hear what others have to say.

The following statements generally apply to me:

  • I am seen as “outgoing” or as a “people person.”
  • I feel comfortable in groups and like working in them.
  • I have a wide range of friends and know lots of people.
  • I sometimes jump too quickly into an activity and don’t allow enough time to think it over.
  • Before I start a project, I sometimes forget to stop and get clear on what I want to do and why.

Introversion (I)

I like getting my energy from dealing with the ideas, pictures, memories, and reactions that are inside my head, in my inner world. I often prefer doing things alone or with one or two people I feel comfortable with. I take time to reflect so that I have a clear idea of what I’ll be doing when I decide to act. Ideas are almost solid things for me. Sometimes I like the idea of something better than the real thing.
The following statements generally apply to me:

  • I am seen as “reflective” or “reserved.”
  • I feel comfortable being alone and like things I can do on my own.
  • I prefer to know just a few people well.
  • I sometimes spend too much time reflecting and don’t move into action quickly enough.
  • I sometimes forget to check with the outside world to see if my ideas really fit the experience.

The fact is, extraversion and introversion isn’t an either/or type of thing. It’s a spectrum and you can lie anywhere along that spectrum.

Ambivert

10 Signs You Are Probably An Ambivert

  1. You are most comfortable in crowded spaces, but when you are in them, you don’t tend to seek out interaction.
  2. You tolerate or engage in small talk, but can get very engaged in intimate conversations.
  3. You adjust your personality based on the energy level of the company you are in.
  4. You might be the life of the party – until you are 100% drained and cannot manage that energy any longer.
  5. In spite of being the life of the party at times, you find it hard to assert yourself and your needs in intimate situations.
  6. Meeting new people is fine, and being in new places is fine, but meeting new people in new places overwhelms you.
  7. You can’t decide which is a better memory – that one party or that night spent alone watching Netflix.
  8. You understand very quickly what drives others.
  9. Group projects or solo ones – you always achieve the same (high) level.
  10. You’ve been called both an extrovert and an introvert, and didn’t know there was another option until now.

So….who are YOU?

An extrovert, an introvert, an extroverted-introvert, an introverted extrovert, an ambivert?

Photos: Leonard Freed 1966 NYC Office Party – Magnum Photos
Looking at Type: The Fundamentals by Charles R. Martin (CAPT 1997)
Communication Motivation by Jacob Cashman


NYC Holiday Scenes

The Main Library
Up 5th Avenue – Saks 5th Ave
Rockefeller Center
Across to 6th Ave – Radio City Music Hall
And over past Macy’s ‘Lego’ Window

(From Master and dievca's meadering walk)
Photos: dievca Midtown 11/2018

Lights work!

Checking the Christmas Tree Lights
6th Ave. Midtown NYC 2018


Starlight on ~

Photos: Top two – Bryant Park Christmas Village Starlight shop, Middle – January 1987 Poem, Bottom two – the star dievca bought.


borrowing from the cyclists: bonked

Kate Upton nude on a bed, from the photo book Culo, by Raphael Mazzucco.

bonk
/bäNGk/
INFORMAL
verb
past tense: bonked; past participle: bonked
1.
knock or hit (something) to cause a reverberating sound.
“he bonked his head on the plane’s low bulkhead”
2.
have sexual intercourse with (someone).
3.
(of a cyclist or runner) reach a point of exhaustion that makes one unable to go further.
“I bonked and couldn’t pedal another stroke”

dievca is done, she has bonked.


Found! Mulled Wine

dievca met Master for a walk in Midtown with a plan to take Holiday photos…she thought because she drove up 6th  Ave. on Thanksgiving and it was relatively quiet – Friday would be the same.  she completely forgot that Black Friday shopping thing…

Photo: dievca Midtown 11/2018

Master was kind enough to slog through the crowds for dievca’s photos. And they decided to finish off the evening with a warm drink.

After heading to the UWS, they couldn’t find the bar/restaurant where Master had seen the placard advertising toasty drinks. As they canvassed the Avenue, dievca spotted a board offering “mulled wine” at a brick oven pizza place. They decided to give it a go~

A good choice!

Glögi, also called Glühwein or mulled wine, is a spiced, usually alcoholic drink, served warm. The original form of Glögi, a spiced liquor, was used to revive messengers and postmen who traveled on horseback or skis in cold weather in Scandinavia.

It revived Master and dievca.

dievca used to get some great mulled wine in Maryland and was happy to finally find a place in NYC. The pizza was pretty good, too.

And if you don’t have a place in your ‘hood, here’s a simple way to make it.

MULLED WINE

Make on the stove-top (or simmer in the slow cooker) and it’s easy to customize with your favorite spices and add-ins, and it is cozy and delicious.  Perfect for winter and holiday entertaining!

INGREDIENTS:

  • 1 (750 ml) bottle of dry red wine (inexpensive as the mulling spices and citrus will take over)
  • 1 orange, sliced into rounds
  • 8 whole cloves
  • 2 cinnamon sticks (stirring in powdered cinnamon works in a pinch)
  • 2 star anise
  • 2-4 tablespoons sugar, honey, or maple syrup to taste (or your desired sweetener)
  • optional add-in: 1/4 cup brandy (or your favorite liqueur)
  • optional garnishes: citrus slices (orange, lemon and/or lime), extra cinnamon sticks, extra star anise

DIRECTIONS:

  1. Combine all ingredients in a saucepan, and heat just barely to a simmer over medium-high heat.  (Be careful not to boil the mulled wine — you don’t want to boil off the alcohol.)  Reduce heat to medium-low, cover, and let the wine simmer for at least 15 minutes or up to 3 hours.
    (You can use a crockpot or instapot, too)
  2. Strain, and serve warm with your desired garnishes.

*Feel free to use your choice of sweetener here, or leave the mulled wine un-sweetened.

**You can also place the oranges, cloves, cinnamon, and star anise in a cheesecloth. Then simply pull out the bundle and strain when ready to serve.

Here’s dievca’s next plan: