Dreaming of Master

It’s hot, it’s humid, it’s semi-tropical and dievca will be dreaming of Master,
In a swimsuit, on the rooftop.
Master is traveling to see his family and quarantining for as long as needed.
His dievca will have to create some Fantasies while He is gone,
Maybe do a little self-care with her Master’s approval.


Aftercare = whole body and mind care

A graphic of a BDSM ‘win-win’!

Sexually active older adults tend to have less inflammation
and, in turn, a higher quality of life, suggests a recent Journal of Sexual Medicine study.

Avocados are a great source of healthy monounsaturated fat and antioxidants,
which can dampen your body’s inflammatory response.
In fact, the anti-inflammatory properties of avocados are so strong
that they may actually offset less healthy food choices. 

Master and His dievca are catching up for a little playtime and lunch today.
They’ve been sharing a Lenwich Vegetarian sandwich during aftercare:

Photo from Lenwich Instagram

Avocado,
Green Leaf Lettuce,
Tomato,
Carrot,
Cucumber,
Alfalfa Sprouts,
Shredded Red Cabbage,
Sweet Peppers,
Honey Mustard

Aftercare = whole body and mind care

 


A Moment to Take a Load Off~


Sometimes the Power Exchange Merges


Master triggered the start of a Fantasy

Anita Ekberg La Dolce Vita Trevi Fountain

Master told His dievca a story about D/s in the outdoors.

Anita Ekberg and Marcello Mastroianni – La Dolce Vita

Thoughts floated around in her head for a while and she fixated on the fountains around NYC.

dievca doesn’t know where her fantasy may go during nighttime dreaming, but her practical side has acknowledged the logistical nightmare D/s play in a NYC fountain might offer: dirty water, too many people, temperature, slipping, clothing – or lack of, legalities, voyeurs – might be a bonus, etc.

Maybe the Hamilton Fountain in Riverside Park — ok, it’s a horse trough.

Let’s see what dievca dreams up this evening.
Might be fabulous – might be a dievca disaster…


Physical Health, Mental Health


Comfort food.
Sitting at home.
Worry.

Time to slip away,
To your Sir or Madam.
Focus.

Don’t forget the healthy aftercare


Flabile

This now-obsolete word has several definitions:

in the context of an instrument, flabile means “played by blowing”;
more broadly it means “liable to be blown about.”
The term is built on the Latin verb flare meaning “to blow.”


Not really a problem in D/s


People always talk about Trust in a BDSM relationship.
Communication.
If it works well, the embarrassment factor of any activity disappears.
Your Sir or Madam has seen or will see all realms of awkwardness if you are adventurous.
Sexually or just within the Power Exchange.

The good news is with Trust you will look at your Dominant or submissive and think,
“Oh-Yes, I want to do that again!”


Wiggle Worm Moon

A big, bright Full Worm Moon will appear in the east on Monday, March 9th.
It might make your Sir’s worm wiggle…

Although the Super Worm Moon officially reaches 100-percent illumination at 1:48 p.m EDT and 10:42 p.m PDT, it’s much more impressive if viewed as it appears low on the horizon.

In New York, sunset is at 6:57 p.m. EDT and moonrise is at 5:56 p.m. EDT, while in Los Angeles sunset occurs at 6:56 p.m. PDT, followed by moonrise at 6:14 p.m. PDT.

If the sky isn’t clear on Monday, check again at dawn, when the moon will be setting in the west. In New York, sunrise is at 7:15 a.m. EDT and moonset 8:06 a.m. EDT, while in LA, sunrise is at 7:09 a.m. PDT and moonset 7:58 a.m. PDT.


presentation outfits VIA Paris Fashion Week 2020

Dominatrix moving to Ladylike:

Balmain Photo: Victor Virgile/Gamma-Rapho/Getty Images

Warrior Queen

  • Flowing Satin with hints of skin
  • Commanding boots
  • Leather Belt with locking hardware
  • Arm length leather gloves

Balenciaga Photo: Estrop/Getty Images

Elegant Gothic

  • Sleek black shimmer
  • Form-fitting style
  • Sharpened talons

Rochas Photo: Kristy Sparow/GettyImages

For Master or Mistress’ Eyes Only

  • Posture turtleneck collar
  • 1980’s shoulders
  • Mobile shimmer
  • Statuesque Heels

Chanel Photo: Victor Virgile/Gamma-Rapho/Getty Images

Pirate’s Booty

  • Plunging Neckline
  • Statement jewels pointing to the bodily jewels
  • Easy access to reveal whimsical stockings
  • Pirate Boots

Saks Potts Photo: Saks Potts

Ladylike

  • Elegant simplicity
  • Easy access
  • Statement boots

 


an intimate coffee to start the week


Sharing coffee with your Sir or Madam can be the start of a beautiful week.


So, has there been any D/s activity?

Yes.
In modified modes.

It’s not been all comfort food…
Master has been really cognizant about His dievca’s mental and physical state.
Back issues? Certain positions.
Torn Calf? Gentle maneuvering.
Mental meltdown? Coddling before shifting..
Need for oblivion? Heavy D/s subspace.

In return, dievca has been serving Her Master to the best of her abilities.
It’s amazing how they flip to D/s without much coaxing.
One cannot ask anything more than that in D/s relationship. Right?


Velvet Kitten – Men’s Lingerie

Tagline:
Nothing is more sexy than CONFIDENCE.
But our LINGERIE is a pretty close second.

Velvet Kitten focuses on Women’s Lingerie – but dievca ran into the brand from the Male Viewpoint…

Why and how? she has no idea.

Master doesn’t do Men’s lingerie. His dievca sees Him dressed or nude – nothing in between. If she saw her Master in the following relatively tasteful pieces – a smile would appear on her lips.  What about your Sir?


Inexpensive Symbolism

14K over sterling silver and brass, on sale $29.99 24″ chain, working lock (click the photo)

A Lock in BDSM:

  • a tool used in bondage
  • a symbol of a relationship between Dominant and submissive
  • a subtle message of being owned

 


Winter Sun

Eva Rubenstein – Couple, NYC 1971


Giving Thanks – D/s

Would you consider using your restraints on your submissive?
Maybe filling all of her holes?
Teasing her clit so she squirts?
Playing with and clipping her nipples?
Grow large in her mouth?
Pound deeply so the bed moves?
Dominate her any way you would like?
If so, she will be ever so Thankful.

Masochism Tango

dievca was distracted by various Tom Lehrer videos: New Math, The Elements, Smut, etc.  One video stood out from the pack and called for a Presentation Outfit. dievca is hoping to persuade Master to show off his Tango skills to the Masochism Tango (video below).

Mr. Lehrer is a retired American musician, singer-songwriter, satirist, and mathematician. He has lectured on mathematics and musical theater. He is best known for the pithy and humorous songs that he recorded in the 1950s and 1960s.

Here’s dievca’s outfit:

Etsy handmade Tango Dress and Greta Flora Tango Shoes

And here is the Masochism Tango:


Pipe Reamer?


The 1957 Calendar dates are correct, we have moved into Libra Season and dievca will be another year older.

They say you should never stop learning and dievca now knows what a Pipe Reamer is….do you?

she can’t decide if the calendar girl pin-up riding the pipe reamer is an innocent illustration of a girl selling a tool, or a tongue-in-cheek sexual message.

Well, this Miss September will be viewing her very own pipe reamer this morning.
Should be fun😘


Social Butterfly – who were you?

Per Urban Dictionary:

Social Butterfly

Someone who is VERY social and easygoing; can be either a male or a female. Usually, these people don’t belong to a particular group, but rather jump from one group to another. They are somewhat accepted in all of them but don’t really have any deep friendship connections in any of them.

dievca was a Social Butterfly in High School (HS). she missed a lot of school due to training/competing, so her socializing was sporadic. she made herself agreeable wherever and whenever she could. (No lunch, no study hall, no gym and perhaps some classes are missing – Driver’s Ed, Consumer Ed, etc.) she touched down lightly for a short time with whatever group was at hand and open to her company.

People mix-up her ability to socialize with popularity.

When she goes back to her HS Reunions, she remembers her Elementary School friends much better than HS people. That extra 8 years of Catholic School leaves an imprint. In turn, High School mates remember her…that is a bit of a scary thought.

The Geeks in her Science classes knew her best and she is always happy to see them.
Her close friendships were childhood friends and sports training friends. They stuck.

Apparently Master was “Popular” in High School.
Hah!
Something dievca did not know.
He never talks about childhood friends.

Master mumbled something about owning a car, dating more than His nerdy friends, people not knowing His background and them thinking that He was very self-assured, confident, smart and funny.

Not a lot of details offered, but it sounds like Master had a good time at his High School Reunion.

Hurrah!

Who were you in High School or Gymnasium?


She’s a Fox – 1980s flashbacks and reunions

noun. an attractive person.
“She is quite the fox.”

A 20-minute flashback~
Return to the 1980s and the pain of being an early teenager finding out about Love and Life.
Plus, big hair and mullets. What’s not to like?

She’s a Fox is a 2009 semi-autobiographical short film written and directed by Cameron Sawyer.

dievca was intrigued by the video, because Master flew to the West Coast, yesterday, one of the reasons for the trip is His High School Reunion. He’s a different generation than dievca and she wonders what He will find.
Reviewing a past Life and seeing how people move on (or don’t move on) is fascinating to dievca.

dievca hit her 10 year High School reunion and 20-year reunion, she passed on the 30-year meet up.
10 years – everyone was trying to impress one another.
20 years – people had been kicked around, divorced, the images had tarnished.
Will dievca make it to 50 Years? Who knows?
Her parents are in the 70-year range…do they still have reunions at that point?

Enjoy the sweet video and keep your ears/eyes open about Master’s experience. XO


Indigo glow

Indigo, a blend of blue and purple, symbolizes spirituality, wisdom, devotion, creativity, fairness, impartiality, justice and dignity.
Master’s Morning!


Biting the bullet – Master’s bespoke suit

It took a while – 3 years to be exact – for Master to bite the bullet and agree to get measured for another custom suit. He’s attending an event in the UK and needs to look “spot on”.

dievca will be reviewing her own advice (above link) and checking out what is currently in fashion for suits. she does know that the “Thom Browne” look isn’t going to fly for Master.

Charcoal grey is in the initial plans, excellent fabric quality and a slimmer cut (but not shrunken) for Master’s solid physique. He’s been working hard on it.

A well-informed dievca is a “prepped and ready” dievca.!

Master just passed on a note. He only has to wear a suit jacket and pants. An easier option from the closet. All of dievca’s research is null and void.
Ah, well.


A Present for Sir or Madam?

Is it a present if a submissive offers their Sir or Madam a chair orgasm?
A front-row view of masturbation in sexy underpinnings?
Please let dievca know, she’s got the bones of a plan and would love to ‘flesh’ it out.


Master would laugh….

Easy Come t-shirt Zoe Karsson

Master has trained his dievca well.
she Orgasms upon command.
Note – dievca is usually wet when around her Master – that helps
But, there is a back to the Tee:

Re/Done ‘easy come, easy go’ tee
dievca’s not sure what that means in the BDSM context.
Slate Article: Come or Cum – We ask the hard questions…


A deep deposit…

in the Family Karma bank.

Manhattan power outage 07/2019

The blackout last night came to roost on dievca’s doorstep.

dievca had power – Master had just left and had power up at His apartment. But, family members of the friend who passed, flew in and were scheduled to stay in a UWS hotel for the Memorial Service. No power.

No power = no AC, no lights, no food with one person in a wheelchair.  dievca called to check on them, they were in a cab and needed a place to go. So, dievca gave up her apartment to the Family and rode her bike up to Masters for the night.

That worked out fine.

The challenge was that she returned at 9 am and they weren’t out of bed. Then she made them breakfast with the random food she had. And then they stayed at dievca’s until 2:00 pm.

Her treat of having two days off in a row – washed away.

Speaking of wash, dievca needs to do the sheets and towels they used.

That’s Karma in the Karma bank, right?

 


Sophia Loren – Lingerie Inspiration

Nothing makes a woman more beautiful
than the belief that she is beautiful.


 Join dievca for a look at various Style Icons and their lingerie choices.

Master loves diversity and a vintage, ladylike-vibe.

His dievca is gathering inspiration.


For the Master or Mistress of BBQ

Master is heading over to a friend’s Brownstone to be the “Master of the BBQ”.
They are European and haven’t learned the fine art of grilling.
dievca heard some mumbling about the grill not being cleaned properly, etc.
she really wants to send over these naughty roasting sticks:

Let’s take a closer look:

There are “kid-friendly” and “transgender” options, too.

Or you can buy a Gay couple, a Lesbian couple, singles….
Available at Amazon: 805 Metal Craft


sensorial stimulation

Your tactile craft was so potent,
the kiss of a dandelion seed tossed my senses into overdrive.


Following directions…


Your Sir said to ‘hold tight’.


dievca figured out the presentation outfit

And Master took it from there.

 


Feeling like a failed submissive

Master asked for a Fantasy. Something to bounce off of – dievca is sure.
He’s back from traveling and tomorrow is convienient to meet.

But as dievca worked 9 hours, had an issue with a plumber after work, passed out on the sofa for an hour, ate spaghettios, wasabi peas and fruit for dinner. she is finally having a glass of wine – but, no BDSM fantasy is coming to mind.

Just a blog post.
A short one at that.

Merriam-Webster defines burnout as “ the condition of someone who has become very physically and emotionally tired after doing a difficult job for a long time”. As much as we s-types do love being submissive and serving, I doubt anyone is going to debate the fact that what we do can be a difficult job and is definitely a long term job.

A D/s relationship requires two individuals to Tango. One partner cannot be expected to be the one to act or plan or suggest all the time. The other partner has to step up, sometimes. Make sure in your relationships, Vanilla or BDSM that you put your time and input in — your partner might need your help. Planning and fantasies are not just the submissive’s domain or the Dominant’s domain — sometimes there needs to be flexibility, communication and a bounce-off platform from the other side.

Master asked for a Fantasy.
His dievca is just not able to produce one at this moment.
she will ask for His help.

A "Thank You" to the submissiveguide.com for voicing some of the feelings swirling around in dievca's head (above quote).