D/s (elfje)

Ball Gag and Mask

Restrained
Spread Wide
Master Speaks His Command
Orgasm


Holiday Hooch Coffee

dievca is heading to Master’s for Christmas Eve, as He just got back from Ireland – she knows He brought home some hooch…

OK, maybe we shouldn’t be using the word “hooch” (noun – informal)

  1. alcoholic liquor, especially inferior or illicit whiskey.

Irish Coffee is a cocktail consisting of hot coffee, Irish whiskey (excellent), and sugar, stirred, and topped with cream. The coffee is drunk through the cream. The original Irish Coffee was created by an airport chef named Joe Sheridandievca, who worked at the little Foynes airport near Limerick, according to the Ireland Whiskey Trail. He whipped it up one rainy winter night for passengers whose plane got turned around due to a storm. He later moved to the Shannon Airport, and took the drink with him.

(Note: In 19th-century France, a mixture of coffee and spirits was called a gloria.)

Irish Coffee

Main alcohol: Irish whiskey
Ingredients: 1 1/3 oz (2 parts) Irish whiskey, 1 oz (1½ parts) Fresh cream, 1 tsp. Brown sugar, 2 2/3 oz (4 parts) Hot coffee
Preparation: Heat the coffee, whiskey and sugar; do not boil. Pour into glass and top with cream by carefully pouring it over the back of a spoon initially held just above the surface of the coffee and gradually raised a little until the entire layer is floated.
Served: Hot
Drinkware: Irish coffee mug
Inventor: Joe Sheridan


Serving Master in a different manner…

christmas package wrapping

Sometimes you serve sexually, sometimes you serve domestically.
Holiday wrapping party today with dievca serving her Master.
Package wrapping elegance!
And maybe a treat afterward~


Working the stockings

stockings

Master has been into stockings lately.  dievca has been working them with a garter belt, no garter belt (stay-ups), chemise, slip, soft corset. etc.  Is your Sir or Madame into a certain presenation mode? XO


Stepping away from Christmas for a moment~

Best in Show
And moving on to a little bit of BDSM fun with Etsy Shop GayPigeon Cards.


Coffee Communication


dievca and Master went beyond that point with coffee many moons ago~
Good Morning! Have a great week. XO


Bondage through another’s eyes – 3 pieces of Man Ray

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Artist and photographer, Man Ray, made several sadomasochistic photos in his career in the 1920s and 1930s. He was a devotee to the works of the Marquis de Sade, and created portraits of the Marquis. Man Ray was one of many artists seeking truth through extreme mental and physical states.

Man Ray’s 1930 Gloved Figure exemplifies the relationship between sadomasochism and mysticism. The photograph features a figure clad in  suede elbow-length gloves, and a matching suede mask. The mask and gloves have been carefully constructed out of the same light-coloured suede material and appear to fit snugly over the model’s face and hands, suggesting that they were made specifically for this shoot based on the model’s exact measurements. The model’s hands are pulled above their head and are attached to a metal chain hanging from the ceiling with a pair of handcuffs. The model is clearly in the masochistic position, their sense of sight and hearing deprived by the mask and their ability to move severely, if not completely, hindered by the handcuffs and chain, which leaves them seemingly suspended from the ceiling.

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Man Ray made a strong connection between artistic prowess and masculine prowess, specifically power over women; the bohemian machismo.

Created in 1930, the Fetishistic Mise-en-scène for William Seabrook series was considered so perverse it was only widely released to the public in 1994.  As the title suggests, the series was created by Man Ray at the request of Seabrook.  They worked together to  bring Seabrook’s fantasies to life, male voyeurism and the fetishization of lesbianism for male pleasure.

Man Ray doesn’t seem entirely comfortable with Seabrook’s world,  hence the less intimate cropping. He seems to prefer his sadism to be spontaneous outbursts of passion, not the meticulously planned, “perverse” scenarios of Seabrook.

A "Thank You" to Man Ray, Audrey Warne. Peter Tupper


Remember when ~ Luxury Air Travel

Luxury Travel

dievca is pretty sure that her Master doesn’t have a pair of those plaid socks – but she does know He is planning to travel in style this weekend.  Too bad with COVID-19, it won’t be quite as cozy as in the past…  Honestly, wouldn’t it just be nice to fly without wearing a mask?


Made with Love: Apple Crisp

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Master’s Birthday is coming up and dievca is gathering her supplies, the plan is:

Classic Apple Crisp recipe with fresh sliced apples, topped with crisp and buttery cinnamon oats.

Prep Time: 30 minutes Cook Time: 50 minutes Total Time: 1 hour 20 minutes

Author: Natasha Kravchuk
Skill Level: Easy
Course: Dessert
Servings: 10 people

Ingredients
For the Apple Crisp Filling:
4 lbs firm-crisp apples, 11-12 medium apples*
2 Tbsp lemon juice
3/4 cup granulated sugar, or to taste**
3 Tbsp all-purpose flour
1 1/2 tsp cinnamon
For the Crumb Topping:
1 3/4 cups flour
1/2 cup packed brown sugar
1/4 cup granulated sugar
1/2 tsp cinnamon
1/4 tsp salt1 cup unsalted butter, (room temperature), plus more to butter pan
1 cup rolled oats, or old fashioned oats

Instructions
Prep: Generously Butter a 9×13 casserole dish with 1/2 Tbsp butter. Preheat the oven to 375F.

Peel core and thinly slice apples to 1/4’ thickness. You should have 12 cups of sliced apples. Squeeze 2 Tbsp lemon juice over the apples and toss to coat.

In a separate bowl, stir together 3/4 cup sugar, 3 Tbsp flour, and 1 1/2 tsp cinnamon then sprinkle mixture over apples and toss to combine. Transfer apples into the buttered casserole dish.

Make the topping – in a large bowl, use your hands to stir together flour, oats, brown and granulated sugars, cinnamon, and salt. Add the diced butter and work it into the mixture with your hands until pea-sized crumbs form throughout. Spread topping over apples.

Bake at 375˚F for 45-50 minutes or until the topping is golden and crisp and apples are bubbling at the edges. The center should register above 175˚F.


Cashmere and Nipples

MoS2 Template Master
For a submissive (or partner) who has sensitive nipples – tactile play can become very erotic. Seeing hard nipples erupt through a soft sweater is inviting and enticing. Touching and playing with those nipples – may shoot Joy through both Top and bottom.
sweater nipples
If you cannot get your nipples to harden by cold or pinching and want to visually please your partner there are:

nipple enhancers

Nipple Enhancers

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And if you don’t have access to nipples at the moment – you can create a boob handwarmer with upcycled cashmere (click photo for link)!

Cashmere Breast Handwarmer


Interesting on so many levels

cigars

dievca was looking for a little submissive elegance and ran into this advertisement from the Cigar Institute of America.  Their message is interesting on many levels: Why just single girls? Is she a gold digger? Does she just want to be taken care of like a good cigar? Can you truly justify that starting to smoke cigars young will keep you young? She does look older than he does.  If you don’t inhale you can still enjoy the rich flavor – is that like not swallowing in fellatio?  Hmm – much to think about~


The Things You Find – Harry Potter BDSM

Harry Potter Graphic
Via TheRooster.com – Harry Potter words describing BDSM actions seems to be thriving in Colorado (2018) as a kind of code for BDSM to be brought up in conversation:

Muggles – People who have tame non-kinky sex (Vanilla)

Wizards – Dominants

witches – submissives

Wand – Sex Toy

Azkaban – Sex Dungeon

Aguamenti – When you’re super wet.

Gillyweed – When you go down on someone for a long time and need that extra lung capacity.

Death Eater – A rimjob.

Longbottom – Ass play.

Unicorns – Swingers or a bi-girl who is down for threesomes.

The Dark Mark – A spanking.

Ravenclaw – Mindfuck play.

Scourgify – Commanding a sub to clean up after sex.

Following that theme – we can bring in some BDSM objects to show your Harry Potter House Loyalties:

Harry Potter Colors

For Rope Bondage:

Harry Potter Bondage Rope Colors

For Discipline – Leather Floggers:

Harry Potter House Long Flogger

Time to breakout your Harry Potter Lingerie!


Got Lemons?

Lemons

Make Lemonade!


Sticky and Wet

20210702_131229With the humidity in NYC,
one cannot escape sweating.
dievca arrived at Master’s wet and sticky.
All was solved with soap, water and shower sex.
Something to be taken carefully,
but worth the effort to beat the heat.
XO

photo: dievca - shower accoutrements 07/2021

Boots that mean Business: ALAÏA


Round Toe
Wedge Heel
5″ Heel
Stretch Leather
24″ Shaft

dievca pulled these out of the closet for resale and thought she should wear them Presenting for Master, one more time.

They are amazing.

Back in rotation for the future.

These are the Joys that come back when your body heals.

XO


Use it or lose it~


dievca arrived home and has a multitude of small tasks to do: there are groceries all over the kitchen countertop that need to get into the pantry, coats with mold from her Mom’s basement that need to be washed as soon as possible, Christmas decorations to be put away, a COVID test, check-in with work, etc.

We have all been in this headspace before~

Then dievca received a lovely e-mail from Master checking-in and letting her know where His head is for D/s.

As she read the e-mail, it was a reach to flow into the same mind space. she couldn’t do it.

dievca’s mind was still on her Mother – one of the Caregivers can’t get back into the country on time because she tested positive for COVID, her brother wants her to research and buy a kitchen faucet for her mom. Scheduling is a mess for work.

Again, we have all been in this headspace previously~
But Master’s email closed with something that clicked in dievca’s very full brain:

“I’ve missed you. And hope that you masturbate at least once in the
next few days, thinking about…Your Master.”

dievca caught on to that like a lifeline — she can do that, she can masturbate on Wednesday morning before the COVID test. She can masturbate thinking about Master. The anticipation is trickling in at odd moments – causing her to think a little bit about sex and D/s.

They say if you don’t use it, you lose it.
That goes for many things, including sex.

Let’s see if that masturbation opens up to a Presentation Outfit and the ability to move into Master’s D/s headspace by Friday. dievca thinks it’s already working while writing this blog post.
she’s using it, she’s using it. XO


Last Day of a Decade: Musing about the Past & Future with a reminder to be in the Present.

Something really big happened in the world’s wiring in the last decade, but it was obscured by the financial crisis and post-9/11. We went from a connected world to a hyperconnected world. I’m always struck that Facebook, Twitter, 4G, iPhones, iPads, high-speech broadband, ubiquitous wireless and Web-enabled cellphones, the cloud, Big Data, cellphone apps and Skype did not exist or were in their infancy a decade ago.

Thomas Friedman in 2013
Here is a link to the snarky Rolling Stone article about Thomas Friedman’s Writing as Porn Titles – a bit funny~

So, what has happened in this past decade of 2011-2020?

Social media, cloud computing, and artificial intelligence radically changed our day-to-day lives. iPads, smartwatches, fitness trackers, true wireless earphones, electric cars—the list of innovations from this decade is a long one. Sci-fi tropes like universal translators and virtual reality games became very real. According to Flock.com

Mobile upgraded from 3G to 4G networks, Social Media Brought Our Lives Online, The Dawn of Genomics and Precision Medicine, Electric vehicles (EVs) became competitive with internal combustion engine (ICE) vehicles, Data storage moved to the cloud From Global X ETFs

What to expect?

5G becomes the new wireless standard, Cloud moves to the edge, Transportation goes electric, autonomous, and shared, Robotics enters new industries, Omnichannel-commerce: Not a zero-sum game between e-commerce and brick-and-mortar, Health care goes digital: AI diagnoses and telemedicine, Genomics: The potential to cure the previously incurable 
From Global X ETFs

Whew!

Maybe it’s good to cut-off and get back to being PRESENT:


Foretaste


Presentation in Semi-sheer + a wild ride

Master told His dievca to wear stockings for Presentation.
The trick was to look alluring while feeling round in the middle – a corset was out~
Maison Close’s fitted skirt with suspenders and a slouchy see-thru sweater was in!

Wearing a hood with red lipstick would put the focus on Master’s Cock and the skirt with suspenders would shift that focus to dievca’s ass while bent over.

Master guided dievca’s head for Cock worship and when hard, He restrained her across the bed so she could be flipped belly down or up as needed. He added a penis gag and vibrating butt plug to fill all of  His dievca’s holes.


As Master’s Cock pounded into His dievca’s pussy, the button to modify the butt plug’s vibrational pattern would get pressed – it made for a wild ride, plus a bit of humor as dievca exploded everywhere.


Outfit for an Art Outing

As an Anniversary Celebration, Master took dievca to the Metropolitan Museum to see the Costume Institute’s About Time: Fashion and Duration.

Due to COVID, rain, and it being “Member Mondays” – the Museum was amazing in its emptiness. It was a rare pleasure to wander and absorb the Art in a very leisurely manner. Something dievca and Master may never experience, again.

Another post will be coming about the offerings from the Exhibition – this blog post is about what dievca wore:

Lucky Brand Sandwashed Modal Dress Navy

Spanx Black Tights

Ilse Jacobsen Rubber Boots

Nili Lotan Floral Silk Mask

Vintage Sterling Silver Bracelet

Master’s Vintage Chain

Majo Italy Bag Silver

Stand Maia Metallic Blue Raincoat, detachable fur collar

Moma Sky Umbrella 1992 – Master’s Gift 2016


Qualities to look for in a partner (Vanilla or BDSM) – Good to Know

When looking for a partner we tend to look for brains, kindness, and attractiveness—the usual. But another quality might be just as important if you’re looking for a long-term, healthy relationship: “emotional fluency.”

Emotional fluency is the act of voicing your emotions with your partner.

This can be extended to roommates, family members, friends – especially in the close confines of COVID-19 quarantining.

In a recent interview with Science of Us, therapist Brian Gleason (and co-author, with his wife, of Exceptional Relationships: Transformation Through Embodied Couples Work) discusses the importance of voicing your emotions with your partner (which he dubs emotional fluency).

One of the biggest reasons couples have trouble is because they have not developed emotional fluency, he says.

“We’re just not trained to speak in emotional language,” says Gleason. Good news: He says it’s a skill we can improve. “The more [feelings] that we’re able to put into some sort of language and convey it to our partner—that these are my inner experiences right now—the more empathy there is in the relationship.”

What happens when you aren’t open about your emotions? Most people—when they’re stressed, angry, or sad—tend to withdraw and perhaps glue their eyes to their phone, shutting off from the rest of the world (including your partner), Gleason says. Sound familiar? (Guilty.)

“The less I can say, this is my inner experience, the more my partner is going to be reacting to [just] my outer behavior, oftentimes with judgment and frustration,” says Gleason.

By explaining your particular 4-1-1 du jour in a direct way,  you’re giving your partner what he or she needs in order to react with affirmations, advice, and other positive reinforcements.

In other words, as mom always said: Use your words! If you do, it can bring you closer together, instead of creating conflict, Gleason says.

Having an a-ha moment? The next time you’re stressed or angry, try to close Instagram and talk about it with your partner instead (could be easier said than done, but worth a try).

From a Well + Good article by Rachel Lapidos, click here.


You know you are loved, when…

Re: I am disturbed because my new Galaxy Active watch tells me that I don’t get enough ‘deep sleep’.  I am ok, time amount-wise and in the REM stage – but I don’t hit the healing deep sleep.  Three days of data is not enough, I will watch it for two weeks. But, it still bothers me.  I flip/flop and move a lot, but I have always done that….maybe my heart rate runs higher for the deep sleep range. Maybe this is normal with peri-menopause. Maybe I have a problem, I will watch it.

dievča,
In general, sleep experts are negative about people who get obsessed with their watch telling them that they don’t get enough deep sleep. Sleep is a very individual and complex issue. But the first thing to know is that everyone wakes up during a night’s sleep…we just don’t remember it.

Read this article:

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/feb/17/shut-eye-and-sleep-hygiene-the-truth-about-why-you-keep-waking-up-at-3am

COVID has also caused sleep problems. Read:

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2020/oct/23/the-zzz-factor-how-coronavirus-has-wreaked-havoc-with-our-sleep

In addition, you are absolutely right: peri-menopause can cause sleep problems. Read:

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/feb/16/i-look-at-the-clock-its-3am-why-women-cant-sleep

And here’s a very brief summary from the NYT about how to sleep better.

Hope some of this info is helpful.

Your Master


Mars in … Hah, they got it right!

Mars, Venus, and Amor – Titian (Tiziano Vecellia)

 

Libra

“Love, harmony, and relationships take the lead when Mars is in Libra,” This placement hates butting heads and would rather be peaceful. “Mars in Libra tends to go with the flow and not take change unless pushed,” It’s all about balance.

That stability translates into the bedroom as well. “The erogenous zones that turn you on the most are your derriere and head — which is why you like to add light spanking and gentle hair pulling to your sexual delights,”

 

Scorpio

If your Mars is in Scorpio, you’re not to be messed with. “Mars in Scorpio carries out duties and tasks with power and relentlessness. You also use your intuition to win at all costs.”

You’re also a relentless seducer. “An evening in bed with you won’t be forgotten,”  “What really gets you going is intense foreplay.”

For Mars in another sign, click HERE.

 


flipping to Dominant and submissive – always fascinating


Working 6 am to 10:30 am.
Hop on the bike and ride 3.8 mi uptown.
Sweating profusely in the heavy humidity.
About as far away from submissive one can get

Conversation and coffee – a shower.
Master’s collar
His dievca flips
in tandem


Dreaming of Master

It’s hot, it’s humid, it’s semi-tropical and dievca will be dreaming of Master,
In a swimsuit, on the rooftop.
Master is traveling to see his family and quarantining for as long as needed.
His dievca will have to create some Fantasies while He is gone,
Maybe do a little self-care with her Master’s approval.


Aftercare = whole body and mind care

A graphic of a BDSM ‘win-win’!

Sexually active older adults tend to have less inflammation
and, in turn, a higher quality of life, suggests a recent Journal of Sexual Medicine study.

Avocados are a great source of healthy monounsaturated fat and antioxidants,
which can dampen your body’s inflammatory response.
In fact, the anti-inflammatory properties of avocados are so strong
that they may actually offset less healthy food choices. 

Master and His dievca are catching up for a little playtime and lunch today.
They’ve been sharing a Lenwich Vegetarian sandwich during aftercare:

Photo from Lenwich Instagram

Avocado,
Green Leaf Lettuce,
Tomato,
Carrot,
Cucumber,
Alfalfa Sprouts,
Shredded Red Cabbage,
Sweet Peppers,
Honey Mustard

Aftercare = whole body and mind care

 


A Moment to Take a Load Off~


Sometimes the Power Exchange Merges


Master triggered the start of a Fantasy

Anita Ekberg La Dolce Vita Trevi Fountain

Master told His dievca a story about D/s in the outdoors.

Anita Ekberg and Marcello Mastroianni – La Dolce Vita

Thoughts floated around in her head for a while and she fixated on the fountains around NYC.

dievca doesn’t know where her fantasy may go during nighttime dreaming, but her practical side has acknowledged the logistical nightmare D/s play in a NYC fountain might offer: dirty water, too many people, temperature, slipping, clothing – or lack of, legalities, voyeurs – might be a bonus, etc.

Maybe the Hamilton Fountain in Riverside Park — ok, it’s a horse trough.

Let’s see what dievca dreams up this evening.
Might be fabulous – might be a dievca disaster…


Physical Health, Mental Health


Comfort food.
Sitting at home.
Worry.

Time to slip away,
To your Sir or Madam.
Focus.

Don’t forget the healthy aftercare


Flabile

This now-obsolete word has several definitions:

in the context of an instrument, flabile means “played by blowing”;
more broadly it means “liable to be blown about.”
The term is built on the Latin verb flare meaning “to blow.”