Something of a smilePosted: May 26, 2023 Filed under: Analysis, Relationships | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominant, fun, Humor, Life, Love, Master, quotes, retro, submissive Leave a comment
“He’s very good looking and very sexy and all of those things, but all of that goes out the window and what is finally left is, if you can make somebody laugh … And he sure does keep me laughing” -Joanne Woodward
“Laughter is the shortest distance between two people.” —Victor BorgePosted: May 17, 2023 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominant, Humor, Life, Master, positive mental attitude, quotes, Relationships, Sexy, submissive Leave a comment
“If I can’t joke around with a guy and hold at least a decent conversation, there is no way sex will ever be on the table.” —Julia
Both genders prefer a partner with a sense of humor, believing that it is important not only in flirting and dating, but also within an enduring relationship. However, whereas men tend to look for a partner who appreciates their sense of humor, women tend to look for a man who makes them laugh. These tendencies are complementary. Indeed, research suggests that when two strangers meet and the man succeeds in making the woman laugh, the chances of her becoming interested in forming a relationship increase (Hall, 2015; Cassata, 2016).
Humor crops up in various forms between Master and His dievca – makes for diversity and is a Joy.
So what is it with spanking? Why is it a thing?Posted: April 11, 2023 Filed under: D/s Relationship | Tags: BDSM, D/s, definition, dievca, Dominant, erotic, focus, impact play, spanking, submissive Leave a comment
So what is it with spanking? Why is it a thing?
Physically, the derriere area is full of sensitive nerves and since the location is close to the genital area it is pretty easy to stimulate that realm by touching or hitting.
When a person gets spanked, although it may hurt, it activates the nerve endings which also trigger sexual stimulation.
Additionally, the action can help a Dominant or submissive center their focus on each other.
Has anyone seen my lace boxers?Posted: March 30, 2023 Filed under: lingerie | Tags: BDSM, Boxers, D/s, dievca, Dominant, Elegant, erotic, Fleur du Mal, Lace, Shopping, submissive, Unisex 2 Comments
For Men and Women via Fleur du Mal
Yesterdays fun~made Master laughPosted: March 18, 2023 Filed under: Accessories, Clothing, Shoes | Tags: BDSM, Black, boots, D/s, D/s relationships, dievca, Dominant, green, Humor, Life, Love, Master, NYC, Presentation Outfit Leave a comment
dievca’s touches of GREEN in a sea of NYC black made her Master laugh. XO
Master Presenting…Posted: March 14, 2023 Filed under: Clothing, Fashion | Tags: BDSM, D/s, Dominant, Elegant, FIT museum, hip hop, Leather, Master, Men's Clothing, Presentation Outfit, snakeskin, Switch Leave a comment
Master is a quiet dresser. He will say that He likes to be the “backdrop” for His dievca. That said – Master does like DIVERSITY and Master/dievca ran into an outfit that Master said He would be willing to try!
It’s a LOOK from the “Fresh Fly and Fabulous: Fifty Years of Hip Hop Style, Pushing at The Boundaries of Fashion.” at the F.I.T. Museum.
Photos: dievca F.I.T. Museum 03/2023
February 1967 – Albert VargasPosted: February 24, 2023 Filed under: Vintage | Tags: 1960's, BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominant, Elegant, erotic, February, Pin Up Girl, retro, submissive, Vargas girl Leave a comment
I’m sorry, I’ve plans for tomorrow…Posted: February 5, 2023 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Submission | Tags: BDSM, bondage, D/s, dievca, Dominant, Elegant, erotic, Life, Master, play, schedule, Scheduling, submissive Leave a comment
Cleaning the closet for Master: “The Basics Ma’am, just the Basics”Posted: January 13, 2023 Filed under: Clothing, Master | Tags: BDSM, cleaning, closet, Curated Basics, D/s, dievca, Dominant, helping, Humor, Master, Shopping, submissive, wardrobe revamp Leave a comment
dievca found this blog title in her “drafts” file. It was from 2016.
she just went through Master’s Closet this past Monday, 2023.
The sorting/clear out is not an annual activity, but every two to three years.
The process consists of emptying everything out of the closet and drawers. Taking a good look at each piece and sorting into a keep pile, repair pile, rag pile and Goodwill pile. Master loves to get rid of items. Then there is the painful process of buying replacement items either online or in person.
dievca steps in with the second part of the process because Master tends to avoid shopping for replacement items. But if you have tossed 3 faded/stained black t-shirts that you wear on repeat – you will need to replace them.
So, a large Nordstrom’s credit dictated the shopping destination for this year. Instead of Barneys and Banana Republic t-shirts, Master will be trying Vince, Rag & Bone and Frame Denim. Apparently, dievca will be watching a fashion show of “the basics” the next time they meet.
she thinks she will love this Rag & Bone Dexter waffle -weave cotton sweater:
Nipples in the SunPosted: January 10, 2023 Filed under: Home and Garden, Master | Tags: BDSM, clouds, D/s relationships, dievca, Dominant, erect, erotic, Life, light, Master, Nipples, play, Southern Exposure, submissive, Sunshine Leave a comment
Master has an apartment with Southern Exposure.
It makes for lovely D/s play in the sun.
The nipple on the cloud looked like dievca’s nipples yesterday,
at attention for their Master.
The Brightest Thing on a Rainy Day!Posted: January 9, 2023 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: coffee, D/s, D/s relationships, Dominant, happy, Humor, Life, Master, Monday, Morning, Rain, sharing, submissive Leave a comment
Isn’t the Good Morning Coffee!
It’s catching up with your Sir or Madam. XO
And they popped out…Posted: December 1, 2022 Filed under: Body Type, D/s Relationship, lingerie | Tags: BDSM, boobs, Chemise, D/s, dievca, disaster, Dominant, erotic, Humor, Lace, Life, Master, Presentation Outfit, Sexy, submissive, Undergarments, Voluptuous 2 Comments
dievca caught up with Master for their Anniversary. she was keeping it simple with a Blush Lingerie “Sweetest Sin” Chamise. The only problem was it was a bit small on the top so her breasts were — lets say— a bit “unrestrained”.
It was a dievca disaster in the making except for fact that Master loved it!
XOXO-OOOOOOOPosted: November 29, 2022 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Dresses | Tags: Anniversary, BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominant, Elegant, Humor, Life, Loewe, Love, Master, Shopping, submissive Leave a comment
The Loewe “Hug” Dress
Are you covering your assets or is your Mistress giving you a hug from behind?
dievca will be giving Master a HUG and more – its their anniversary.
The Dom and sub whoPosted: October 18, 2022 Filed under: Home and Garden, Master, submissive | Tags: Autumn, BDSM, Birthday gift, cleaning, D/s, dievca, Dominant, Life, Love, Master, serving 1 Comment
clean together, preen together!
congratulate or pride oneself.
“it did not prevent them from preening themselves on their achievement”
Master has friends and family coming for visits this Autumn, so dievca went over to help him do a “deep clean” for their arrival. Windows washed inside and out, Floors wiped, Heavy duty dusting, Leather conditioned, Granite conditioned, Bathrooms scrubbed, etc. — Master’s apartment is GLEAMING!
Hey, it was what Master asked for as a present for His Birthday. dievca was happy to serve. XO
I Rub My Duckie – BondagePosted: July 12, 2022 Filed under: Accessories, Entertainment | Tags: bath, BDSM, bondage, Cosplay, D/s, dievca, Dominant, erotic, Foreplay, Humor, massager, Sex Toy, submissive, vibrator Leave a comment
A little humor in the BDSM bath is not a bad thing. Too bad these waterproof vibrators are out-of-stock and the company may be out of business…. Big Tease Toys
Ah, well something silly for a Tuesday.
A vivid dreamPosted: June 22, 2022 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Entertainment, Master | Tags: dievca, Dominant, dream, erotic, Master, nude, Orgasm, Sex, Sleeping, spooning, submissive Leave a comment
ToBeHisPosted: May 27, 2022 Filed under: Jewelry, Submission | Tags: BDSM, collar, D/s, Dominant, Elegant, Master, padlock, Shopping, submissive 4 Comments
It’s always nice to run into a BDSM store that caters to Dominant/submissive needs. ToBeHis creates luxury Day Collars and other jewelry – custom and stock for the BDSM community.
What impressed dievca is the availability of 14K Gold options – costly to stock if you are not a large outfit.
The Gold “very heavy” Eternity Ring Chain will run around $5K and the lock dievca admires is about $1.5K. Lovely for every day to honor your Sir or Madame.
Catching up with MasterPosted: April 23, 2022 Filed under: Relationships, submissive | Tags: anticipation, BDSM, D/s, D/s relationships, dievca, Dominant, erotic, kneeling, Master, Sexy, submissive Leave a comment
Always a delightful endeavor.
Spring: sprucing up your submissivePosted: April 9, 2022 Filed under: Accessories, Collars, Submission | Tags: BDSM, cuffs, D/s, dievca, Dominant, erotic, handmade, Leather, restraints, Shopping, Spring, submissive Leave a comment
thecollarshop.com: Every time you buy from The Collar Shop you know that you are buying a handcrafted, custom piece made to your specifications. All items have adjustability built-in, so please be sure to read the FAQ on how to properly measure and order.
Stockings for Master (per His request)Posted: April 7, 2022 Filed under: Accessories, D/s Relationship, lingerie | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominant, Elegant, erotic, Master, Presentation, stockings, submissive Leave a comment
Even the gods love jokes. ~Plato: Poisson d’AvrilPosted: April 1, 2022 Filed under: Accessories, Shoes | Tags: April Fool's Day, BDSM, Charlotte Olympia, d-s, Dominant, Elegant, erotic, fashion, Kink, Master, Slave, submissive Leave a comment
REPOST from 2014
April Fool’s Day sometimes called All Fools’ Day, is one of the most light-hearted days of the year. Its origins are uncertain. Some see it as a celebration related to the turn of the seasons, while others believe it stems from the adoption of a new calendar.
Ancient Cultures, including those of the Romans and Hindus, celebrated New Year’s Day on or around April 1. In medieval times, much of Europe celebrated March 25, the Feast of Annunciation, as the beginning of the new year.
In 1582, Pope Gregory XIII ordered a new calendar, the Gregorian Calendar, to replace the old Julian Calendar. The new calendar called for New Year’s Day to be celebrated Jan. 1. That year, France adopted the reformed calendar and shifted New Year’s day to Jan. 1. According to a popular explanation, many people either refused to accept the new date, or did not learn about it, and continued to celebrate New Year’s Day on April 1. Other people began to make fun of these traditionalists, sending them on “fool’s errands” or trying to trick them into believing something false. Eventually, the practice spread throughout Europe.
There are problems with this explanation: 1.) This doesn’t fully account for the spread of April Fools’ Day to other European countries. The Gregorian Calendar was not adopted by England until 1752 and April Fools’ Day was already well established. 2.) We have no direct historical evidence for this explanation, only conjecture, and that conjecture appears to have been made more recently.
Either way the French call April 1 Poisson d’Avril, or “April Fish.” French children sometimes tape a picture of a fish on the back of their schoolmates, crying “Poisson d’Avril” when the prank is discovered.
A submissive re-evaluationPosted: February 23, 2022 Filed under: Analysis, Discussion, Master, Submission | Tags: BDSM, change, D/s, definitions, dievca, Dominant, evaluation, growth, Life, power exchange Leave a comment
Master is traveling and dievca has had some open time to review her Life and changes in the past 2 years. Between COVID, deaths, aging – Master and dievca’s relationship has changed. And as body changes, social changes and family changes have eased – she’s wondering what will return or diminish.
dievca is starting her reflection process by defining the type of Relationship Master and dievca had at the beginning. Then she plans to review where she thinks they are now. Finally, she will communicate her analysis to Master and listen to His thoughts and wants for the future.
9 Types of submissives:
- The outright non-submissive masochist or kinky sensualist
Not into servitude, humiliation or giving up of control; just pain and/or spiced-up sensuality, on the masochist’s own terms for the masochist’s own pleasure (ie: being turned on solely or mainly by one’s own bodily sensations, rather than being turned on by being “used” to gratify one’s partner’s sadism).
- Pseudo-submissive non-slave
Not into even playing “slave”, but into other “submissive” role-playing, e.g.: schoolteacher scenes, infantilism, “forced” transvestism. Usually into humiliation, but NOT into servitude, even in play. Dictates the scene to a large degree.
- Pseudo-submissive PLAY slave
Likes to play at being slave. Likes to *feel* subservient; may in some cases like to *feel* that one is being “used” to gratify one’s partner’s sadism; and may even really serve the dominant in some ways, but only on the “slave’s” own terms. Dictates the scene to a large degree; often fetishistic (e.g. foot worshippers).
- True submissive non-slave
Really gives up control (though only temporarily and within agreed upon limits), but gets his/her main satisfaction from aspects of submission *other than* serving or being used by the dominant. Usually turned on by suspense, vulnerability, and/or giving up of responsibility. Doesn’t dictate the scene except in very general terms, but still seeks mainly her/his own *direct* pleasure (rather than getting one’s pleasure mainly from pleasing the dominant).
- True submissive PLAY slave
Really gives up control (though only temporarily; only during brief “scenes” and within limits) and gets his/her main satisfaction from serving and being used by the dominant – but only for FUN purposes, usually erotic. (May or may not be into pain, but if so, is turned on by pain *indirectly*, ie: enjoys being the objects of one’s partner’s sadism, on which the submissive places few requirements or restrictions.)
- Uncommitted short-term but more-than-play semi-slave
Really gives up control (though usually within limits); wants to serve and be used by the dominant; wants to provide practical/non-erotic as well as fun/ erotic services; but only when the “slave” is in the mood. May even act as a full-time slave for, say, several days at a time, but is free to quit at any time (or at the end of the agreed upon several days). May or may not have a long-term relationship with one’s Mistress/Master, but, either way, the “slave” has the final say over when he or she will serve.
- Part-time consensual but REAL slave
Has ongoing commitment to an owner/slave relationship, and regards oneself as the Mistress’/Master’s “property” at all times. Wants to obey and please her/him in all aspects of life – practical/non-erotic as well as fun/erotic. Devotes most of one’s time to other commitments (eg: job) but the Mistress/Master has first pick of the slave’s free time.
- Full-time live-in consensual slave
Within no more than a few broad limits/requirements, the slave regards herself/ himself as existing solely for the Mistress’/Master’s use, pleasure and well- being. The slave in turn expects to be regarded as a prized possession. Not much different from the situation of the traditional housewife, except that within the S/M world the slave’s position is more likely to be fully consensual, especially if the slave is male (since men certainly aren’t socially pressured into this kind of lifestyle). Within the S/M world, a full-time “slave” arrangement is entered into with an explicit awareness of the magnitude of power that is being given up, and hence is usually entered into much more carefully, with more awareness of the possible dangers, and with much clearer and more specific agreements than usually precede the traditional marriage.
- Consensual total slave with no limits
A common fantasy ideal which probably doesn’t exist in real life (except in authoritarian religious cults and other situations where the “consent” is induced by brainwashing and/or social or economic pressures, and hence isn’t fully consensual). A few S/M purists will insist that you aren’t really a slave unless you’re willing to do absolutely *anything* for your Mistress/ Master, with no limits at all. There are a few who claim to be no-limits slaves, but in all cases it would be reasonable to doubt the claim.
© 1984, 1988 by Mistress Diane Vera as reprinted in
Pat Califia, ed. The Lesbian S/M Safety Manual (Boston: Lace / Alyson) pp. 69-71
A Thank You to SluttyGirlProblem – Victoria Sparrow and Officer Wes for the information that made dievca start to think.
www.officerwes.com © 1997-2021 by Officer Wes
♀+♂=♥ ♂+♂=♥ ♀+♀=♥Posted: February 14, 2022 Filed under: Entertainment | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominant, erotic, heart, Love, Sexy, submissive, Valentine's Day Leave a comment
Whichever way you flow –
HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!
A Master knows~Posted: February 4, 2022 Filed under: D/s Relationship, Master | Tags: awareness, BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominant, Life, Love, Master, quote, Relationships, sharing, submissive Leave a comment
“There are times she is kneeling out of obedience, reverence and respect. Those are the times it is okay to stand above her. But when she is kneeling because the weight of the world is just too heavy to bear … that is when You should be kneeling beside her.” — Unknown
Who’s wearing Red? We all should be~Posted: February 3, 2022 Filed under: Entertainment, lingerie | Tags: BDSM, Chinese New Year 2022, D/s, dievca, Dominant, erotic, Good Luck, Humor, Life, red, Shopping, submissive, Undergarments 2 Comments
For Chinese New Year, beyond the buying of new clothes, giving of red envelopes and eating a lot with your family and friends, there’s the more contemporary tradition of wearing red underwear.
Men in particular – red underwear is one of the most popular gifts for sweethearts to exchange around Chinese New Year. Every winter, red underwear decorated with gold embroidery, usually illustrating the pertinent zodiac animal for that particular year, goes on sale in China’s stores.
Who Should Be Wearing Red?
The Chinese Zodiac employs a cycle of 12. There are 12 animals in the zodiac and each year welcomes a new animal. The cycle goes like this: rat, ox, tiger, rabbit, dragon, snake, horse, sheep, monkey, rooster, dog and pig. People are born under one sign and will run into their sign again every 12 years. So it’s important to be aware of your benming nian (本命年), or the meeting of one’s zodiac year.
Why Do They Need To Wear Red?
One would think that your animal year would be a good one. But, Chinese traditional belief is that your benming nian (your animal year) is going to be full of bad luck. So if it’s your year, you need to take a few precautions to ensure that your year is not a bad one.
To ward off any dangers that might befall you it’s believed that it helps to wear the color red. Red is one of the luckiest colors in Chinese traditions, standing for loyalty, success and happiness. You see red all over the place during traditional Chinese festivals: red lanterns, red envelopes, red paper hangings ornammented in gold.
Why Do We Need To Wear Red?
If you believe in this stuff and you’re really traditional, you should wear red every day, all year long. How do you ward off the bad luck but maintain your own sense of style? Red underwear is the answer!
Red underwear is an easy way to protect yourself against the hazards of benming nian and the regular hazards of Life!
D/s (elfje)Posted: January 4, 2022 Filed under: Master, Poetry, Relationships | Tags: BDSM, bondage, D/s, Desire, dievca, Dominant, elfje, erotic, Master, Orgasm, submissive Leave a comment
Master Speaks His Command
Holiday Hooch CoffeePosted: December 20, 2021 Filed under: Entertainment, Home and Garden | Tags: Alcoholic Drink, BDSM, celebration, coffee, D/s, dievca, Dominant, Holiday 2021, Irish Coffee, Master, Monday, Whiskey, Winter 2 Comments
dievca is heading to Master’s for Christmas Eve, as He just got back from Ireland – she knows He brought home some hooch…
OK, maybe we shouldn’t be using the word “hooch” (noun – informal)
alcoholic liquor, especially inferior or illicit whiskey.
Irish Coffee is a cocktail consisting of hot coffee, Irish whiskey (excellent), and sugar, stirred, and topped with cream. The coffee is drunk through the cream. The original Irish Coffee was created by an airport chef named Joe Sheridandievca, who worked at the little Foynes airport near Limerick, according to the Ireland Whiskey Trail. He whipped it up one rainy winter night for passengers whose plane got turned around due to a storm. He later moved to the Shannon Airport, and took the drink with him.
(Note: In 19th-century France, a mixture of coffee and spirits was called a gloria.)
Main alcohol: Irish whiskey
Ingredients: 1 1/3 oz (2 parts) Irish whiskey, 1 oz (1½ parts) Fresh cream, 1 tsp. Brown sugar, 2 2/3 oz (4 parts) Hot coffee
Preparation: Heat the coffee, whiskey and sugar; do not boil. Pour into glass and top with cream by carefully pouring it over the back of a spoon initially held just above the surface of the coffee and gradually raised a little until the entire layer is floated.
Drinkware: Irish coffee mug
Inventor: Joe Sheridan
Serving Master in a different manner…Posted: December 17, 2021 Filed under: Home and Garden, submissive | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, domestic chore, Dominant, Gifts, Holiday 2021, Life, Master, serving, submissive, Wrapping Leave a comment
Sometimes you serve sexually, sometimes you serve domestically.
Holiday wrapping party today with dievca serving her Master.
Package wrapping elegance!
And maybe a treat afterward~
Working the stockingsPosted: December 9, 2021 Filed under: Accessories, lingerie | Tags: BDSM, D/s, dievca, Dominant, Elegant, elegants, erotic, garter belt, Master, Presentation Outfits, stockings, submissive Leave a comment
Master has been into stockings lately. dievca has been working them with a garter belt, no garter belt (stay-ups), chemise, slip, soft corset. etc. Is your Sir or Madame into a certain presenation mode? XO