A vivid dream

Spooned
early morning
naked
backing up
Joy


ToBeHis

It’s always nice to run into a BDSM store that caters to Dominant/submissive needs.  ToBeHis creates luxury Day Collars and other jewelry – custom and stock for the BDSM community.

What impressed dievca is the availability of 14K Gold options – costly to stock if you are not a large outfit.

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The Gold “very heavy” Eternity Ring Chain will run around $5K and the lock dievca admires is about $1.5K.  Lovely for every day to honor your Sir or Madame.


Catching up with Master

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Always a delightful endeavor.


Spring: sprucing up your submissive

Purple Restraint Set

thecollarshop.com:  Every time you buy from The Collar Shop you know that you are buying a handcrafted, custom piece made to your specifications. All items have adjustability built-in, so please be sure to read the FAQ on how to properly measure and order.


Stockings for Master (per His request)


Even the gods love jokes. ~Plato: Poisson d’Avril

REPOST from 2014

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Kenzo Fish Wallet

Kenzo Fish Wallet

Kenzo Blue Black Patchwork Fish Pouch

Kenzo Fish Pouch

Charlotte Olympia Goldfish Keyfob

Charlotte Olympia Goldfish Keyfob

April Fool’s Day sometimes called All Fools’ Day, is one of the most light-hearted days of the year. Its origins are uncertain. Some see it as a celebration related to the turn of the seasons, while others believe it stems from the adoption of a new calendar.

April-Fools-Day

 

Ancient Cultures, including those of the Romans and Hindus, celebrated New Year’s Day on or around April 1.  In medieval times, much of Europe celebrated March 25, the Feast of Annunciation, as the beginning of the new year.

In 1582, Pope Gregory XIII ordered a new calendar, the Gregorian Calendar, to replace the old Julian Calendar. The new calendar called for New Year’s Day to be celebrated Jan. 1. That year, France adopted the reformed calendar and shifted New Year’s day to Jan. 1. According to a popular explanation, many people either refused to accept the new date, or did not learn about it, and continued to celebrate New Year’s Day on April 1. Other people began to make fun of these traditionalists, sending them on “fool’s errands” or trying to trick them into believing something false. Eventually, the practice spread throughout Europe.

There are problems with this explanation:  1.) This doesn’t fully account for the spread of April Fools’ Day to other European countries. The Gregorian Calendar was not adopted by England until 1752 and April Fools’ Day was already well established. 2.) We have no direct historical evidence for this explanation, only conjecture, and that conjecture appears to have been made more recently.

Either way the French call April 1 Poisson d’Avril, or “April Fish.” French children sometimes tape a picture of a fish on the back of their schoolmates, crying “Poisson d’Avril” when the prank is discovered.

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A submissive re-evaluation

elegant submissiveMaster is traveling and dievca has had some open time to review her Life and changes in the past 2 years. Between COVID, deaths, aging – Master and dievca’s relationship has changed. And as body changes, social changes and family changes have eased – she’s wondering what will return or diminish.

dievca is starting her reflection process by defining the type of Relationship Master and dievca had at the beginning. Then she plans to review where she thinks they are now. Finally, she will communicate her analysis to Master and listen to His thoughts and wants for the future.

9 Types of submissives:

  • The outright non-submissive masochist or kinky sensualist
    Not into servitude, humiliation or giving up of control; just pain and/or spiced-up sensuality, on the masochist’s own terms for the masochist’s own pleasure (ie: being turned on solely or mainly by one’s own bodily sensations, rather than being turned on by being “used” to gratify one’s partner’s sadism).
  • Pseudo-submissive non-slave
    Not into even playing “slave”, but into other “submissive” role-playing, e.g.: schoolteacher scenes, infantilism, “forced” transvestism. Usually into humiliation, but NOT into servitude, even in play. Dictates the scene to a large degree.
  • Pseudo-submissive PLAY slave
    Likes to play at being slave. Likes to *feel* subservient; may in some cases like to *feel* that one is being “used” to gratify one’s partner’s sadism; and may even really serve the dominant in some ways, but only on the “slave’s” own terms. Dictates the scene to a large degree; often fetishistic (e.g. foot worshippers).
  • True submissive non-slave
    Really gives up control (though only temporarily and within agreed upon limits), but gets his/her main satisfaction from aspects of submission *other than* serving or being used by the dominant. Usually turned on by suspense, vulnerability, and/or giving up of responsibility. Doesn’t dictate the scene except in very general terms, but still seeks mainly her/his own *direct* pleasure (rather than getting one’s pleasure mainly from pleasing the dominant).
  • True submissive PLAY slave
    Really gives up control (though only temporarily; only during brief “scenes” and within limits) and gets his/her main satisfaction from serving and being used by the dominant – but only for FUN purposes, usually erotic. (May or may not be into pain, but if so, is turned on by pain *indirectly*, ie: enjoys being the objects of one’s partner’s sadism, on which the submissive places few requirements or restrictions.)
  • Uncommitted short-term but more-than-play semi-slave
    Really gives up control (though usually within limits); wants to serve and be used by the dominant; wants to provide practical/non-erotic as well as fun/ erotic services; but only when the “slave” is in the mood. May even act as a full-time slave for, say, several days at a time, but is free to quit at any time (or at the end of the agreed upon several days). May or may not have a long-term relationship with one’s Mistress/Master, but, either way, the “slave” has the final say over when he or she will serve.
  • Part-time consensual but REAL slave
    Has ongoing commitment to an owner/slave relationship, and regards oneself as the Mistress’/Master’s “property” at all times. Wants to obey and please her/him in all aspects of life – practical/non-erotic as well as fun/erotic. Devotes most of one’s time to other commitments (eg: job) but the Mistress/Master has first pick of the slave’s free time.
  • Full-time live-in consensual slave
    Within no more than a few broad limits/requirements, the slave regards herself/ himself as existing solely for the Mistress’/Master’s use, pleasure and well- being. The slave in turn expects to be regarded as a prized possession. Not much different from the situation of the traditional housewife, except that within the S/M world the slave’s position is more likely to be fully consensual, especially if the slave is male (since men certainly aren’t socially pressured into this kind of lifestyle). Within the S/M world, a full-time “slave” arrangement is entered into with an explicit awareness of the magnitude of power that is being given up, and hence is usually entered into much more carefully, with more awareness of the possible dangers, and with much clearer and more specific agreements than usually precede the traditional marriage.
  • Consensual total slave with no limits
    A common fantasy ideal which probably doesn’t exist in real life (except in authoritarian religious cults and other situations where the “consent” is induced by brainwashing and/or social or economic pressures, and hence isn’t fully consensual). A few S/M purists will insist that you aren’t really a slave unless you’re willing to do absolutely *anything* for your Mistress/ Master, with no limits at all. There are a few who claim to be no-limits slaves, but in all cases it would be reasonable to doubt the claim.

© 1984, 1988 by Mistress Diane Vera as reprinted in
Pat Califia, ed. The Lesbian S/M Safety Manual (Boston: Lace / Alyson) pp. 69-71
A Thank You to SluttyGirlProblem – Victoria Sparrow and Officer Wes for the information that made dievca start to think.
www.officerwes.com © 1997-2021 by Officer Wes


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Whichever way you flow –

HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!

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A Master knows~

naked-expressive-dance-couple-full-length-multiethnic-performing-over-blue-background-33888483“There are times she is kneeling out of obedience, reverence and respect. Those are the times it is okay to stand above her. But when she is kneeling because the weight of the world is just too heavy to bear … that is when You should be kneeling beside her.” — Unknown


Who’s wearing Red? We all should be~

For Chinese New Year, beyond the buying of new clothes, giving of red envelopes and eating a lot with your family and friends, there’s the more contemporary tradition of wearing red underwear.

Men in particular – red underwear is one of the most popular gifts for sweethearts to exchange around Chinese New Year. Every winter, red underwear decorated with gold embroidery, usually illustrating the pertinent zodiac animal for that particular year, goes on sale in China’s stores.

Who Should Be Wearing Red?
The Chinese Zodiac employs a cycle of 12. There are 12 animals in the zodiac and each year welcomes a new animal. The cycle goes like this: rat, ox, tiger, rabbit, dragon, snake, horse, sheep, monkey, rooster, dog and pig. People are born under one sign and will run into their sign again every 12 years. So it’s important to be aware of your benming nian (本命年), or the meeting of one’s zodiac year.

Why Do They Need To Wear Red?
One would think that your animal year would be a good one. But, Chinese traditional belief is that your benming nian (your animal year) is going to be full of bad luck. So if it’s your year, you need to take a few precautions to ensure that your year is not a bad one.

To ward off any dangers that might befall you it’s believed that it helps to wear the color red. Red is one of the luckiest colors in Chinese traditions, standing for loyalty, success and happiness. You see red all over the place during traditional Chinese festivals: red lanterns, red envelopes, red paper hangings ornammented in gold.

Why Do We Need To Wear Red?
If you believe in this stuff and you’re really traditional, you should wear red every day, all year long. How do you ward off the bad luck but maintain your own sense of style? Red underwear is the answer!

Red underwear is an easy way to protect yourself against the hazards of benming nian and the regular hazards of Life!


D/s (elfje)

Ball Gag and Mask

Restrained
Spread Wide
Master Speaks His Command
Orgasm


Holiday Hooch Coffee

dievca is heading to Master’s for Christmas Eve, as He just got back from Ireland – she knows He brought home some hooch…

OK, maybe we shouldn’t be using the word “hooch” (noun – informal)

  1. alcoholic liquor, especially inferior or illicit whiskey.

Irish Coffee is a cocktail consisting of hot coffee, Irish whiskey (excellent), and sugar, stirred, and topped with cream. The coffee is drunk through the cream. The original Irish Coffee was created by an airport chef named Joe Sheridandievca, who worked at the little Foynes airport near Limerick, according to the Ireland Whiskey Trail. He whipped it up one rainy winter night for passengers whose plane got turned around due to a storm. He later moved to the Shannon Airport, and took the drink with him.

(Note: In 19th-century France, a mixture of coffee and spirits was called a gloria.)

Irish Coffee

Main alcohol: Irish whiskey
Ingredients: 1 1/3 oz (2 parts) Irish whiskey, 1 oz (1½ parts) Fresh cream, 1 tsp. Brown sugar, 2 2/3 oz (4 parts) Hot coffee
Preparation: Heat the coffee, whiskey and sugar; do not boil. Pour into glass and top with cream by carefully pouring it over the back of a spoon initially held just above the surface of the coffee and gradually raised a little until the entire layer is floated.
Served: Hot
Drinkware: Irish coffee mug
Inventor: Joe Sheridan


Serving Master in a different manner…

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Sometimes you serve sexually, sometimes you serve domestically.
Holiday wrapping party today with dievca serving her Master.
Package wrapping elegance!
And maybe a treat afterward~


Working the stockings

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Master has been into stockings lately.  dievca has been working them with a garter belt, no garter belt (stay-ups), chemise, slip, soft corset. etc.  Is your Sir or Madame into a certain presenation mode? XO


Stepping away from Christmas for a moment~

Best in Show
And moving on to a little bit of BDSM fun with Etsy Shop GayPigeon Cards.


Coffee Communication


dievca and Master went beyond that point with coffee many moons ago~
Good Morning! Have a great week. XO


Bondage through another’s eyes – 3 pieces of Man Ray

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Artist and photographer, Man Ray, made several sadomasochistic photos in his career in the 1920s and 1930s. He was a devotee to the works of the Marquis de Sade, and created portraits of the Marquis. Man Ray was one of many artists seeking truth through extreme mental and physical states.

Man Ray’s 1930 Gloved Figure exemplifies the relationship between sadomasochism and mysticism. The photograph features a figure clad in  suede elbow-length gloves, and a matching suede mask. The mask and gloves have been carefully constructed out of the same light-coloured suede material and appear to fit snugly over the model’s face and hands, suggesting that they were made specifically for this shoot based on the model’s exact measurements. The model’s hands are pulled above their head and are attached to a metal chain hanging from the ceiling with a pair of handcuffs. The model is clearly in the masochistic position, their sense of sight and hearing deprived by the mask and their ability to move severely, if not completely, hindered by the handcuffs and chain, which leaves them seemingly suspended from the ceiling.

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Man Ray made a strong connection between artistic prowess and masculine prowess, specifically power over women; the bohemian machismo.

Created in 1930, the Fetishistic Mise-en-scène for William Seabrook series was considered so perverse it was only widely released to the public in 1994.  As the title suggests, the series was created by Man Ray at the request of Seabrook.  They worked together to  bring Seabrook’s fantasies to life, male voyeurism and the fetishization of lesbianism for male pleasure.

Man Ray doesn’t seem entirely comfortable with Seabrook’s world,  hence the less intimate cropping. He seems to prefer his sadism to be spontaneous outbursts of passion, not the meticulously planned, “perverse” scenarios of Seabrook.

A "Thank You" to Man Ray, Audrey Warne. Peter Tupper


Remember when ~ Luxury Air Travel

Luxury Travel

dievca is pretty sure that her Master doesn’t have a pair of those plaid socks – but she does know He is planning to travel in style this weekend.  Too bad with COVID-19, it won’t be quite as cozy as in the past…  Honestly, wouldn’t it just be nice to fly without wearing a mask?


Made with Love: Apple Crisp

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Master’s Birthday is coming up and dievca is gathering her supplies, the plan is:

Classic Apple Crisp recipe with fresh sliced apples, topped with crisp and buttery cinnamon oats.

Prep Time: 30 minutes Cook Time: 50 minutes Total Time: 1 hour 20 minutes

Author: Natasha Kravchuk
Skill Level: Easy
Course: Dessert
Servings: 10 people

Ingredients
For the Apple Crisp Filling:
4 lbs firm-crisp apples, 11-12 medium apples*
2 Tbsp lemon juice
3/4 cup granulated sugar, or to taste**
3 Tbsp all-purpose flour
1 1/2 tsp cinnamon
For the Crumb Topping:
1 3/4 cups flour
1/2 cup packed brown sugar
1/4 cup granulated sugar
1/2 tsp cinnamon
1/4 tsp salt1 cup unsalted butter, (room temperature), plus more to butter pan
1 cup rolled oats, or old fashioned oats

Instructions
Prep: Generously Butter a 9×13 casserole dish with 1/2 Tbsp butter. Preheat the oven to 375F.

Peel core and thinly slice apples to 1/4’ thickness. You should have 12 cups of sliced apples. Squeeze 2 Tbsp lemon juice over the apples and toss to coat.

In a separate bowl, stir together 3/4 cup sugar, 3 Tbsp flour, and 1 1/2 tsp cinnamon then sprinkle mixture over apples and toss to combine. Transfer apples into the buttered casserole dish.

Make the topping – in a large bowl, use your hands to stir together flour, oats, brown and granulated sugars, cinnamon, and salt. Add the diced butter and work it into the mixture with your hands until pea-sized crumbs form throughout. Spread topping over apples.

Bake at 375˚F for 45-50 minutes or until the topping is golden and crisp and apples are bubbling at the edges. The center should register above 175˚F.


Cashmere and Nipples

MoS2 Template Master
For a submissive (or partner) who has sensitive nipples – tactile play can become very erotic. Seeing hard nipples erupt through a soft sweater is inviting and enticing. Touching and playing with those nipples – may shoot Joy through both Top and bottom.
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If you cannot get your nipples to harden by cold or pinching and want to visually please your partner there are:

nipple enhancers

Nipple Enhancers

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And if you don’t have access to nipples at the moment – you can create a boob handwarmer with upcycled cashmere (click photo for link)!

Cashmere Breast Handwarmer


Interesting on so many levels

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dievca was looking for a little submissive elegance and ran into this advertisement from the Cigar Institute of America.  Their message is interesting on many levels: Why just single girls? Is she a gold digger? Does she just want to be taken care of like a good cigar? Can you truly justify that starting to smoke cigars young will keep you young? She does look older than he does.  If you don’t inhale you can still enjoy the rich flavor – is that like not swallowing in fellatio?  Hmm – much to think about~


The Things You Find – Harry Potter BDSM

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Via TheRooster.com – Harry Potter words describing BDSM actions seems to be thriving in Colorado (2018) as a kind of code for BDSM to be brought up in conversation:

Muggles – People who have tame non-kinky sex (Vanilla)

Wizards – Dominants

witches – submissives

Wand – Sex Toy

Azkaban – Sex Dungeon

Aguamenti – When you’re super wet.

Gillyweed – When you go down on someone for a long time and need that extra lung capacity.

Death Eater – A rimjob.

Longbottom – Ass play.

Unicorns – Swingers or a bi-girl who is down for threesomes.

The Dark Mark – A spanking.

Ravenclaw – Mindfuck play.

Scourgify – Commanding a sub to clean up after sex.

Following that theme – we can bring in some BDSM objects to show your Harry Potter House Loyalties:

Harry Potter Colors

For Rope Bondage:

Harry Potter Bondage Rope Colors

For Discipline – Leather Floggers:

Harry Potter House Long Flogger

Time to breakout your Harry Potter Lingerie!


Got Lemons?

Lemons

Make Lemonade!


Sticky and Wet

20210702_131229With the humidity in NYC,
one cannot escape sweating.
dievca arrived at Master’s wet and sticky.
All was solved with soap, water and shower sex.
Something to be taken carefully,
but worth the effort to beat the heat.
XO

photo: dievca - shower accoutrements 07/2021

Boots that mean Business: ALAÏA


Round Toe
Wedge Heel
5″ Heel
Stretch Leather
24″ Shaft

dievca pulled these out of the closet for resale and thought she should wear them Presenting for Master, one more time.

They are amazing.

Back in rotation for the future.

These are the Joys that come back when your body heals.

XO


Use it or lose it~


dievca arrived home and has a multitude of small tasks to do: there are groceries all over the kitchen countertop that need to get into the pantry, coats with mold from her Mom’s basement that need to be washed as soon as possible, Christmas decorations to be put away, a COVID test, check-in with work, etc.

We have all been in this headspace before~

Then dievca received a lovely e-mail from Master checking-in and letting her know where His head is for D/s.

As she read the e-mail, it was a reach to flow into the same mind space. she couldn’t do it.

dievca’s mind was still on her Mother – one of the Caregivers can’t get back into the country on time because she tested positive for COVID, her brother wants her to research and buy a kitchen faucet for her mom. Scheduling is a mess for work.

Again, we have all been in this headspace previously~
But Master’s email closed with something that clicked in dievca’s very full brain:

“I’ve missed you. And hope that you masturbate at least once in the
next few days, thinking about…Your Master.”

dievca caught on to that like a lifeline — she can do that, she can masturbate on Wednesday morning before the COVID test. She can masturbate thinking about Master. The anticipation is trickling in at odd moments – causing her to think a little bit about sex and D/s.

They say if you don’t use it, you lose it.
That goes for many things, including sex.

Let’s see if that masturbation opens up to a Presentation Outfit and the ability to move into Master’s D/s headspace by Friday. dievca thinks it’s already working while writing this blog post.
she’s using it, she’s using it. XO


Last Day of a Decade: Musing about the Past & Future with a reminder to be in the Present.

Something really big happened in the world’s wiring in the last decade, but it was obscured by the financial crisis and post-9/11. We went from a connected world to a hyperconnected world. I’m always struck that Facebook, Twitter, 4G, iPhones, iPads, high-speech broadband, ubiquitous wireless and Web-enabled cellphones, the cloud, Big Data, cellphone apps and Skype did not exist or were in their infancy a decade ago.

Thomas Friedman in 2013
Here is a link to the snarky Rolling Stone article about Thomas Friedman’s Writing as Porn Titles – a bit funny~

So, what has happened in this past decade of 2011-2020?

Social media, cloud computing, and artificial intelligence radically changed our day-to-day lives. iPads, smartwatches, fitness trackers, true wireless earphones, electric cars—the list of innovations from this decade is a long one. Sci-fi tropes like universal translators and virtual reality games became very real. According to Flock.com

Mobile upgraded from 3G to 4G networks, Social Media Brought Our Lives Online, The Dawn of Genomics and Precision Medicine, Electric vehicles (EVs) became competitive with internal combustion engine (ICE) vehicles, Data storage moved to the cloud From Global X ETFs

What to expect?

5G becomes the new wireless standard, Cloud moves to the edge, Transportation goes electric, autonomous, and shared, Robotics enters new industries, Omnichannel-commerce: Not a zero-sum game between e-commerce and brick-and-mortar, Health care goes digital: AI diagnoses and telemedicine, Genomics: The potential to cure the previously incurable 
From Global X ETFs

Whew!

Maybe it’s good to cut-off and get back to being PRESENT:


Foretaste


Presentation in Semi-sheer + a wild ride

Master told His dievca to wear stockings for Presentation.
The trick was to look alluring while feeling round in the middle – a corset was out~
Maison Close’s fitted skirt with suspenders and a slouchy see-thru sweater was in!

Wearing a hood with red lipstick would put the focus on Master’s Cock and the skirt with suspenders would shift that focus to dievca’s ass while bent over.

Master guided dievca’s head for Cock worship and when hard, He restrained her across the bed so she could be flipped belly down or up as needed. He added a penis gag and vibrating butt plug to fill all of  His dievca’s holes.


As Master’s Cock pounded into His dievca’s pussy, the button to modify the butt plug’s vibrational pattern would get pressed – it made for a wild ride, plus a bit of humor as dievca exploded everywhere.


Outfit for an Art Outing

As an Anniversary Celebration, Master took dievca to the Metropolitan Museum to see the Costume Institute’s About Time: Fashion and Duration.

Due to COVID, rain, and it being “Member Mondays” – the Museum was amazing in its emptiness. It was a rare pleasure to wander and absorb the Art in a very leisurely manner. Something dievca and Master may never experience, again.

Another post will be coming about the offerings from the Exhibition – this blog post is about what dievca wore:

Lucky Brand Sandwashed Modal Dress Navy

Spanx Black Tights

Ilse Jacobsen Rubber Boots

Nili Lotan Floral Silk Mask

Vintage Sterling Silver Bracelet

Master’s Vintage Chain

Majo Italy Bag Silver

Stand Maia Metallic Blue Raincoat, detachable fur collar

Moma Sky Umbrella 1992 – Master’s Gift 2016