For a submissive (or partner) who has sensitive nipples – tactile play can become very erotic. Seeing hard nipples erupt through a soft sweater is inviting and enticing. Touching and playing with those nipples – may shoot Joy through both Top and bottom.
If you cannot get your nipples to harden by cold or pinching and want to visually please your partner there are:
And if you don’t have access to nipples at the moment – you can create a boob handwarmer with upcycled cashmere (click photo for link)!
dievca was looking for a little submissive elegance and ran into this advertisement from the Cigar Institute of America. Their message is interesting on many levels: Why just single girls? Is she a gold digger? Does she just want to be taken care of like a good cigar? Can you truly justify that starting to smoke cigars young will keep you young? She does look older than he does. If you don’t inhale you can still enjoy the rich flavor – is that like not swallowing in fellatio? Hmm – much to think about~
Via TheRooster.com – Harry Potter words describing BDSM actions seems to be thriving in Colorado (2018) as a kind of code for BDSM to be brought up in conversation:
Muggles – People who have tame non-kinky sex (Vanilla)
Wizards – Dominants
witches – submissives
Wand – Sex Toy
Azkaban – Sex Dungeon
Aguamenti – When you’re super wet.
Gillyweed – When you go down on someone for a long time and need that extra lung capacity.
Death Eater – A rimjob.
Longbottom – Ass play.
Unicorns – Swingers or a bi-girl who is down for threesomes.
The Dark Mark – A spanking.
Ravenclaw – Mindfuck play.
Scourgify – Commanding a sub to clean up after sex.
Following that theme – we can bring in some BDSM objects to show your Harry Potter House Loyalties:
Time to breakout your Harry Potter Lingerie!
With the humidity in NYC,
one cannot escape sweating.
dievca arrived at Master’s wet and sticky.
All was solved with soap, water and shower sex.
Something to be taken carefully,
but worth the effort to beat the heat.
photo: dievca - shower accoutrements 07/2021
dievca pulled these out of the closet for resale and thought she should wear them Presenting for Master, one more time.
They are amazing.
Back in rotation for the future.
These are the Joys that come back when your body heals.
dievca arrived home and has a multitude of small tasks to do: there are groceries all over the kitchen countertop that need to get into the pantry, coats with mold from her Mom’s basement that need to be washed as soon as possible, Christmas decorations to be put away, a COVID test, check-in with work, etc.
We have all been in this headspace before~
Then dievca received a lovely e-mail from Master checking-in and letting her know where His head is for D/s.
As she read the e-mail, it was a reach to flow into the same mind space. she couldn’t do it.
dievca’s mind was still on her Mother – one of the Caregivers can’t get back into the country on time because she tested positive for COVID, her brother wants her to research and buy a kitchen faucet for her mom. Scheduling is a mess for work.
Again, we have all been in this headspace previously~
But Master’s email closed with something that clicked in dievca’s very full brain:
“I’ve missed you. And hope that you masturbate at least once in the
next few days, thinking about…Your Master.”
dievca caught on to that like a lifeline — she can do that, she can masturbate on Wednesday morning before the COVID test. She can masturbate thinking about Master. The anticipation is trickling in at odd moments – causing her to think a little bit about sex and D/s.
They say if you don’t use it, you lose it.
That goes for many things, including sex.
Let’s see if that masturbation opens up to a Presentation Outfit and the ability to move into Master’s D/s headspace by Friday. dievca thinks it’s already working while writing this blog post.
she’s using it, she’s using it. XO
Something really big happened in the world’s wiring in the last decade, but it was obscured by the financial crisis and post-9/11. We went from a connected world to a hyperconnected world. I’m always struck that Facebook, Twitter, 4G, iPhones, iPads, high-speech broadband, ubiquitous wireless and Web-enabled cellphones, the cloud, Big Data, cellphone apps and Skype did not exist or were in their infancy a decade ago.
So, what has happened in this past decade of 2011-2020?
Social media, cloud computing, and artificial intelligence radically changed our day-to-day lives. iPads, smartwatches, fitness trackers, true wireless earphones, electric cars—the list of innovations from this decade is a long one. Sci-fi tropes like universal translators and virtual reality games became very real. According to Flock.com
Mobile upgraded from 3G to 4G networks, Social Media Brought Our Lives Online, The Dawn of Genomics and Precision Medicine, Electric vehicles (EVs) became competitive with internal combustion engine (ICE) vehicles, Data storage moved to the cloud From Global X ETFs
What to expect?
5G becomes the new wireless standard, Cloud moves to the edge, Transportation goes electric, autonomous, and shared, Robotics enters new industries, Omnichannel-commerce: Not a zero-sum game between e-commerce and brick-and-mortar, Health care goes digital: AI diagnoses and telemedicine, Genomics: The potential to cure the previously incurable
From Global X ETFs
Maybe it’s good to cut-off and get back to being PRESENT:
Master told His dievca to wear stockings for Presentation.
The trick was to look alluring while feeling round in the middle – a corset was out~
Maison Close’s fitted skirt with suspenders and a slouchy see-thru sweater was in!
Wearing a hood with red lipstick would put the focus on Master’s Cock and the skirt with suspenders would shift that focus to dievca’s ass while bent over.
Master guided dievca’s head for Cock worship and when hard, He restrained her across the bed so she could be flipped belly down or up as needed. He added a penis gag and vibrating butt plug to fill all of His dievca’s holes.
As Master’s Cock pounded into His dievca’s pussy, the button to modify the butt plug’s vibrational pattern would get pressed – it made for a wild ride, plus a bit of humor as dievca exploded everywhere.
As an Anniversary Celebration, Master took dievca to the Metropolitan Museum to see the Costume Institute’s About Time: Fashion and Duration.
Due to COVID, rain, and it being “Member Mondays” – the Museum was amazing in its emptiness. It was a rare pleasure to wander and absorb the Art in a very leisurely manner. Something dievca and Master may never experience, again.
Another post will be coming about the offerings from the Exhibition – this blog post is about what dievca wore:
When looking for a partner we tend to look for brains, kindness, and attractiveness—the usual. But another quality might be just as important if you’re looking for a long-term, healthy relationship: “emotional fluency.”
Emotional fluency is the act of voicing your emotions with your partner.
This can be extended to roommates, family members, friends – especially in the close confines of COVID-19 quarantining.
In a recent interview with Science of Us, therapist Brian Gleason (and co-author, with his wife, of Exceptional Relationships: Transformation Through Embodied Couples Work) discusses the importance of voicing your emotions with your partner (which he dubs emotional fluency).
One of the biggest reasons couples have trouble is because they have not developed emotional fluency, he says.
“We’re just not trained to speak in emotional language,” says Gleason. Good news: He says it’s a skill we can improve. “The more [feelings] that we’re able to put into some sort of language and convey it to our partner—that these are my inner experiences right now—the more empathy there is in the relationship.”
What happens when you aren’t open about your emotions? Most people—when they’re stressed, angry, or sad—tend to withdraw and perhaps glue their eyes to their phone, shutting off from the rest of the world (including your partner), Gleason says. Sound familiar? (Guilty.)
“The less I can say, this is my inner experience, the more my partner is going to be reacting to [just] my outer behavior, oftentimes with judgment and frustration,” says Gleason.
By explaining your particular 4-1-1 du jour in a direct way, you’re giving your partner what he or she needs in order to react with affirmations, advice, and other positive reinforcements.
In other words, as mom always said: Use your words! If you do, it can bring you closer together, instead of creating conflict, Gleason says.
Having an a-ha moment? The next time you’re stressed or angry, try to close Instagram and talk about it with your partner instead (could be easier said than done, but worth a try).
From a Well + Good article by Rachel Lapidos, click here.
Re: I am disturbed because my new Galaxy Active watch tells me that I don’t get enough ‘deep sleep’. I am ok, time amount-wise and in the REM stage – but I don’t hit the healing deep sleep. Three days of data is not enough, I will watch it for two weeks. But, it still bothers me. I flip/flop and move a lot, but I have always done that….maybe my heart rate runs higher for the deep sleep range. Maybe this is normal with peri-menopause. Maybe I have a problem, I will watch it.
In general, sleep experts are negative about people who get obsessed with their watch telling them that they don’t get enough deep sleep. Sleep is a very individual and complex issue. But the first thing to know is that everyone wakes up during a night’s sleep…we just don’t remember it.
Read this article:
COVID has also caused sleep problems. Read:
In addition, you are absolutely right: peri-menopause can cause sleep problems. Read:
And here’s a very brief summary from the NYT about how to sleep better.
Hope some of this info is helpful.
“Love, harmony, and relationships take the lead when Mars is in Libra,” This placement hates butting heads and would rather be peaceful. “Mars in Libra tends to go with the flow and not take change unless pushed,” It’s all about balance.
That stability translates into the bedroom as well. “The erogenous zones that turn you on the most are your derriere and head — which is why you like to add light spanking and gentle hair pulling to your sexual delights,”
If your Mars is in Scorpio, you’re not to be messed with. “Mars in Scorpio carries out duties and tasks with power and relentlessness. You also use your intuition to win at all costs.”
You’re also a relentless seducer. “An evening in bed with you won’t be forgotten,” “What really gets you going is intense foreplay.”
For Mars in another sign, click HERE.
Working 6 am to 10:30 am.
Hop on the bike and ride 3.8 mi uptown.
Sweating profusely in the heavy humidity.
About as far away from submissive one can get
Conversation and coffee – a shower.
His dievca flips
It’s hot, it’s humid, it’s semi-tropical and dievca will be dreaming of Master,
In a swimsuit, on the rooftop.
Master is traveling to see his family and quarantining for as long as needed.
His dievca will have to create some Fantasies while He is gone,
Maybe do a little self-care with her Master’s approval.
Sexually active older adults tend to have less inflammation
and, in turn, a higher quality of life, suggests a recent Journal of Sexual Medicine study.
Avocados are a great source of healthy monounsaturated fat and antioxidants,
which can dampen your body’s inflammatory response.
In fact, the anti-inflammatory properties of avocados are so strong
that they may actually offset less healthy food choices.
Master and His dievca are catching up for a little playtime and lunch today.
They’ve been sharing a Lenwich Vegetarian sandwich during aftercare:
Green Leaf Lettuce,
Shredded Red Cabbage,
Aftercare = whole body and mind care
Sometimes the Power Exchange Merges
Master told His dievca a story about D/s in the outdoors.
Thoughts floated around in her head for a while and she fixated on the fountains around NYC.
dievca doesn’t know where her fantasy may go during nighttime dreaming, but her practical side has acknowledged the logistical nightmare D/s play in a NYC fountain might offer: dirty water, too many people, temperature, slipping, clothing – or lack of, legalities, voyeurs – might be a bonus, etc.
Maybe the Hamilton Fountain in Riverside Park — ok, it’s a horse trough.
Let’s see what dievca dreams up this evening.
Might be fabulous – might be a dievca disaster…
Sitting at home.
Time to slip away,
To your Sir or Madam.
Don’t forget the healthy aftercare
This now-obsolete word has several definitions:
in the context of an instrument, flabile means “played by blowing”;
more broadly it means “liable to be blown about.”
The term is built on the Latin verb flare meaning “to blow.”
People always talk about Trust in a BDSM relationship.
If it works well, the embarrassment factor of any activity disappears.
Your Sir or Madam has seen or will see all realms of awkwardness if you are adventurous.
Sexually or just within the Power Exchange.
The good news is with Trust you will look at your Dominant or submissive and think,
“Oh-Yes, I want to do that again!”
A big, bright Full Worm Moon will appear in the east on Monday, March 9th.
It might make your Sir’s worm wiggle…
Although the Super Worm Moon officially reaches 100-percent illumination at 1:48 p.m EDT and 10:42 p.m PDT, it’s much more impressive if viewed as it appears low on the horizon.
In New York, sunset is at 6:57 p.m. EDT and moonrise is at 5:56 p.m. EDT, while in Los Angeles sunset occurs at 6:56 p.m. PDT, followed by moonrise at 6:14 p.m. PDT.
If the sky isn’t clear on Monday, check again at dawn, when the moon will be setting in the west. In New York, sunrise is at 7:15 a.m. EDT and moonset 8:06 a.m. EDT, while in LA, sunrise is at 7:09 a.m. PDT and moonset 7:58 a.m. PDT.
Dominatrix moving to Ladylike:
- Flowing Satin with hints of skin
- Commanding boots
- Leather Belt with locking hardware
- Arm length leather gloves
- Sleek black shimmer
- Form-fitting style
- Sharpened talons
For Master or Mistress’ Eyes Only
- Posture turtleneck collar
- 1980’s shoulders
- Mobile shimmer
- Statuesque Heels
- Plunging Neckline
- Statement jewels pointing to the bodily jewels
- Easy access to reveal whimsical stockings
- Pirate Boots
- Elegant simplicity
- Easy access
- Statement boots
Sharing coffee with your Sir or Madam can be the start of a beautiful week.
In modified modes.
It’s not been all comfort food…
Master has been really cognizant about His dievca’s mental and physical state.
Back issues? Certain positions.
Torn Calf? Gentle maneuvering.
Mental meltdown? Coddling before shifting..
Need for oblivion? Heavy D/s subspace.
In return, dievca has been serving Her Master to the best of her abilities.
It’s amazing how they flip to D/s without much coaxing.
One cannot ask anything more than that in D/s relationship. Right?
Nothing is more sexy than CONFIDENCE.
But our LINGERIE is a pretty close second.
Velvet Kitten focuses on Women’s Lingerie – but dievca ran into the brand from the Male Viewpoint…
Why and how? she has no idea.
Master doesn’t do Men’s lingerie. His dievca sees Him dressed or nude – nothing in between. If she saw her Master in the following relatively tasteful pieces – a smile would appear on her lips. What about your Sir?
A Lock in BDSM:
- a tool used in bondage
- a symbol of a relationship between Dominant and submissive
- a subtle message of being owned